I was beaten up by my partner now im being charged because she said i hit her when i didnt.

Dulal666 | 15:16 Wed 07th Apr 2010 | Criminal

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Hi,

Me and my ex wife got into an arguement the other day, so she threw a screwdriver at me. I packed my stuff and headed downstairs to pack my TV and all the other equiptment. While i was taking all the wires off she hit me on the head with the small home theatre speakers and i pushed her away i carried on packing my stuff and then she decided to hit me on the head a few more times,. All i did that night was push her away i did not lay my hands on her once. I was hit with my playstation 3 times, monster 8 socket plug a few times, with the wires and the home theatre speaker. She broke my brand new TV, my playstation 3. I went to my parents house she called about 3 hours later and said she is going to call the police me knowing i didnt do anything to her i said "go oon then" 7:30 in te morning police are knocking on my parents door looking for me.

I was the victim to start off with and now i have become the suspect.

I got arrested by the police charged with common assult and then when i left the police they were charging me with ABH.

How did that happen i would like to know?

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Cazz your right threre is no excuse for voilence regardless i dont even like arguing forget about fighting im not a big strong man or a person that knows how to fight, i called my friend to pick me up when i got my stuff downstairs. Hes eyes started going teary because i was bleeding from my head mouth and nose and he cudnt say anything to comfort me.

But even after all this proof i have that i was the one who was getting beaten up im still the suspect and its emotionally killing me.

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she went beserk because i said i wanted to leave her everytime she hit me she made me feel like it was my fault thats why she beat me but that night she just swore at me and i said im not putting up with your bullying anymore im leaving and i think thats what triggered her and took a beating that will give me nightmares for a lifetime

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mrs.chappie

Sorry to hear you're having such a bad time with her. I can't understand why the police would charge you with assault. Hope it gets sorted in the end and you can put this horrible experience behind you.

standian

As others have said, suggest you get some legal advice and you could always try contacting one of these organisations for more specialist support/advice.

Supporting Male Victims of Domestic Abuse - Mankind- 01823 334244 or www.mankind.org.uk

MALE (Men’s Advice Line Enquiries) 0845 064 6800 or www.mensadviceline.org.uk - a helpline service for men experiencing domestic violence.

Marijn

Hi Dulal, I don't have an answer for you, just want to say,I hope everything all works out for the best.

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we was married 6 years 4 years of voilence she made me feel like it was my fault for beating me up and she was right, that night she was constantly swearing at me and i told her im leaving her i think thats what triggered her off these 4 years i just took the beating and didnt say anything back. You know what happend after that all i know is i will be left with a scar in my emotions and a lifetime of nightmares of what happend to me that night

suzie1

Dulal666, im sorry to hear about all this, and just coz your a bloke, it dont mean the police laugh at you when you tell them that she hit you...I would press charges against her for assaulting you, and take advice from domestic violence unit. Also i would submit a complaint regarding the officer that was grinning at you when you told them she hit you. This is common with men as well as women and its about time someone, like yourself stood up for themselves.

Please dont be ashamed that a woman hit you, some woman can be very very violent, just the same as some men. Make sure you have pics of the injuries sustained and your friend as your witness. Does anyone else know about the abuse you have endured from her, gather all the evidence together and put it forward when you go to court. good luck and dont lose hope. x keep us informed

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the only question i have is how do i prove that i didnt hit her that night im being framed for something i didnt do and its scaring the life out of me.

suzie1

Its her word against yours...u cant prove it, unless you have shown your injuries to them, hence, take pics to show in court. I dont think much will come out of this, so please dont worry to much lovey, have you been in trouble with the police before, they take that into account also.

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mrs.chappie

I think it would help you to talk to someone about this. Do you have a close friend or relative you can talk to? Or perhaps a counsellor. I am sure there will be some help available, if you seek it.

Good luck. Hope you'll post and let us know how you are getting on.

suzie1

Wizard - im building a patio!! did you see my thread yesterday that was removed?

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Wizard- sorry i dont know what you mean

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Wizard- sorry i dont know what you mean

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