Kissed an ex and now unsure where we stand

[hellymyname]

Yesterday we were both very drunk and we kissed and he kept hugging me and holding my hand etc and he told me he missed me and loved me etc but he was very drunk and when we were together before he had a tendency to only ever say i love you when drunk. anyway now im unsure how to act with him because i have no idea where i stand. now i know ill be hurt if i see him with another girl because we have kissed since we broke up but i dont know how to approach the situation. i told him yesterday i didnt know where we stood and he said he didnt either. because we were so drunk i feel awkward bringing it up and talking to him about it and i dont know what to say! advice please

[Pinkypie]

Can you text or phone and say in a jovial way.... "what happened last night?"

You can test the water with him.......... If he sounds full of regret, you can laugh it off in front of him and agree. but if he sounds like he enjoyed it then you can react in the same way.

It's a tricky one!

[hellymyname]

was thinking about that but it wasnt like a one kiss kind of thing, we were acting like we did before we ended things! very unsure of what to do!

[cathfromsaron]

how did he treat you when you were together? why did you break up the first time?

[hellymyname]

we broke up before summer and we always knew we would from the start of the relationship because we were both away the whole time and we are both young etc etc so there wasnt an actual reason which makes it even more complicated!

[cathfromsaron]

if he hasn't treated you badly and you are now more able to make a go of it, then if he wants to too, go for it!

cath x

[Pinkypie]

Agree if you think it will work better then go for it. If you think deep down that it will end again, then maybe it not a good idea! You'll know when the time comes :0)

[Twenty20]

You've used the word 'drunk' four times in a short post. Perhaps you should look for a boyfriend who isn't drunk so often? Or, maybe, if you were sober yourself you would have understood the situation better.

Maybe it's time to cut back on the drink or find a sober boyfriend? Just a thought.

[Anngel123]

Hate to state the obvious...."only said he loved me when drunk" well there's a good basis for any relationship..not. How about you speak when you are both sober? I know it's a big ask. It is possible to be in a social situation without getting off your head. I dread to think how many youngsters today are in the same position as you. Up to the 80's drunken behaviour was much less common, especially among young women. It sounds like you may have some connection with this guy but what has really changed?

[hellymyname]

i dont drink frequently only at large parties like yesterday. and when i say he only said i love you when drunk, i mean that he obviously didnt mean it just gets emotional after a few drinks. we hadnt been together for a particularly long time and we are young.... it would be ridiculous in my opinion to be saying i love you. should only be said when its really meant.

[Sqad]

Another difficult one.

[Prudie]

I had an ex who left me and for at least year after would ring me when drunk, tell me he loved me and even attempt phone sex but he had no interest in me when sober. I think a lot of men do this when drunk but I'm a bit cynical. Assess what your relationship is/was like when sober.

[brenda]

Perhaps you may be too young to know this old saying-----When the wine is in, the wit is out. Why not just let things cool, say nothing about the event and see what happens. A drunken kiss is no big deal.