Legally Acceptable?

[littlegraftersmu]

if a person in a supervisory teaching role were to send a generic message to a whole group or people parents of other pupils about a family parents and children that they were trouble causers would this be legally acceptable

[pixie373]

If he has actually referred to you by name, i would definitely speak to him and ask for a public (to the parents involved) retraction and apology. I would also wonder whether this would be the best teacher for that child.

[2sp_]

I would ask to see the headteacher.

It really doesn't matter if you are a bunch of hooligans (I'm not saying you are!), no member of staff should be this unprofessional.

[littlegraftersmu]

No we have been with another coach for three years and recently decided to try him clearly he is forward thinking incase we decide to move of to someone else

[littlegraftersmu]

i mean no i wouldnt consider we were trouble makers we just take an active interest in what our child is doing as she is a minor and our responsibility.

[bednobs]

i am still really confused about what the situation here actually is

[2sp_]

Sorry, I thought it was a school.

Does this coach have an employer or is he self-employed?

[Mamyalynne]

For whatever reason this person has taken against you - for that reason alone I would not wish them to tutor my child in anything, be it Piano, swimming or education.

If they have a superior make known to them your displeasure at these events, most out of order.

[browntrout]

Does anyone reading this thread think they understand what is going on here.

[browntrout]

I'll take that as a no, then.

[browntrout]

I can't imagine why the two previous posts were removed (perhaps the moderator will tell me). All I said was that I don't think anybody understands what is going on here. That has got to be a reasonable comment.

[FredPuli43]

"We take an active interest....." And how, exactly, do you display this active interest?

[littlegraftersmu]

i take her and pay for it ! am i explaining myself to you now? the question was .... is it ok for someone to bandy rumours and apparently according to british law it isnt it is defamation and actionable at a cost. thank you for your opinions everyone!

[pixie373]

I think you need to prove it has done damage?

[littlegraftersmu]

probably the only time i would consider taking a civil action here is if the comments come back to haunt my daughter when she competes nationally next season then it would be worth the upset but the comments have definitely helped me as I understand it is defamatory and I will take a complaint to the National organisation that endorse the coaches has alienated us and in particular my daughter as people have been affected by the comment, which is how it came into discussion and i was shown the text message. I thought it was unprofessional but I needed outside view point. He wont be teaching my daughter again he clearly shouldn't have taken her on to his team. thanks again everyone :-)

[FredPuli43]

Libel, which is what it would be when in writing and disseminated to some third party, and the defences thereto, I have set out above.

Can you think of anything you have done or said which could conceivably cause this tutor to brand you a trouble maker? And what of your child? Have you asked your child that question, in any form ? If so, what answer(s) did you get?

[littlegraftersmu]

Not really only that I had asked a year or so ago to have a guest coach in to teach my daughter this is allowed for a fee and it was granted and I paid the coach had been teaching my daughter elsewhere and he was turning a few heads and I dont think he liked this he requested in a coaches meeting to have it stopped and i had that over ruled, maybe this is his problem but i dont class this a trouble making to warrant him telling all my daughters new team mates parents she and her family are trouble causers who we hope have turned a new leaf? My daughter has come to me a couple of times and said they wont talk to me and i have said it is because you are new just smile and be nice it will happen, she has become very friendly with one of the girls whose mum is lovely and consequently i have been informed of why. Unfortunately the little girl has told my daughter that THEY have been told to stay away from her ( she is only young and didn't realise) so...

[FredPuli43]

What does 'turning a few heads ' mean in this context? What was he doing or not doing which achieved that result?

And what did you do, as a parent, to have a decision overruled? What were your cited reasons ? Why did you do it?

[FredPuli43]

Steady daisy; punctuation is not my strong point sometimes, and when somebody is anxious to get their thoughts down 'on paper' or online, it does tend to mean that editing for such niceties gets overlooked in the eagernes to express the thought and feeling.

[anneasquith]

I agree fred.