Babybombo, so sorry that you had this awful news this week - I really feel for the friends and family of this poor girl, i just hope she wasn't in too much pain. Cancer is awful at any age, but seems particularly unfair when the victim is so young.
The day before my 13th Birthday my friend, who was 14, died from leukhaemia so I know what it feels like to lose someone at that age (I know you're older than I was, but you get my drift). Just wanted to let you know that, as cliche as it sounds, time is a great healer and although I still think about my friend now (what he would have looked like, the cheeky things he would say, what job he would be doing, whether he'd have children or not, etc) I feel lucky to have known him when I did, as opposed to have not having not him atall and can now talk about what a sh*t he could be as well as all the good things he was (sometimes people can be painted as saints when they have died don't you think? This boy was a devil sometimes, a royal pain in the bum)
In answer to your question though, I do give to charities; I work part time on a voluntary basis for a charity that builds, rennovates and funds teaching at schools in The Gambia, I also donate monthly to NSPCC, RSPCA and Cancer Research, plus any fundraising activities I undertake myself (or my dad, who runs marathons) are always for cancer research.
Thinking of you hun xx