Divorce - Unreasonable Behaviour

[888sally888]

I want to go down this route - can anyone please tell me what is expected to be enough as grounds for divorce.

Many thanks.

[ojread2]

i used this defense for my divorce - it was silly things really such as him not decorating the house, not helping with our daughter. I found the reasons ludicrous but at the time i wanted a quickie divorce. This was before the 2 year seperation thing came in though

[Razzle09]

Sally I used this as well and you solicitor/barrister will give yu advice. Unreasonable rehaviour can range from staying out all night to not assisting with care of children, excessive bils you may be expected to pay. Buying gifts for other women (even if they are friends). In short there are a number of behaviours that can be considered unreasonable if they are not agreed upon by both parties. Gook luck

[whifffey]

You will get your divorce, no problem. If your reasons are not considered "unreasonable" enough, make some others up, it's been done thousands of times. Your papers will be seen only by a handful of people. There is no sensible notion of defence in a divorce case. If 50% of a relationship wants out, then what is the point?

Above all, settle quickly on the two cardinal matters - children and money. If you squabble with spouse you are only keeping the lawyers happy - you can run up thousands.

[ojread2]

I can think of any others my solicitor used actually. To be honest anything you find inappropriate is unreasonable

[ojread2]

As whiffey - some of mine were acutely exaggerated, that much i remember (Think you have to have around 6/7 reasons)
Whiffey is correct, why have to find a reaosn at all if you no longer want to be with someone? I just fell out of love with my ex and wanted out - simple

[whifffey]

One tactic I forgot - create some unreasonable behaviour. I was once an unhappy witness to a furious row (over the garden fence) between a young couple. It was a quiet summer's afternoon and she was goading him mercilessly at the top of her voice. He was anxiously trying to shepherd her back into the house, to calm her down. Finally, in exasperation, he slapped her face, quite lightly. The effect was amazing. She stood back, and in a very low voice said "Got you now!".

I expect that slap was much magnified in the subsequent divorce.

[Razzle09]

Whiffey that's a great one and one many men and women fall into; however if you go down the DV route (for tghat's what it will be) if you have children in the relationship it will have a knock on effect on them. If you use that before you know it there will a non molestation order in force and social services swarming...................you probably don't have to look to far for unreasonable behaviour.......snoring and refusing to have it treated. Poor personal hygiene....stretch your imagination. lol

[Razzle09]

Sally what it comes down to is this: You can tell the truth which might be enough or you can embelish the truth. You can exaggerate or tell lies. As long as you can live with the consequences of your behaviour all will be well. :-))

[whifffey]

The sequel to the story is that soon after, the young man moved out. Within days a new man had moved in. I bet a whole load of "unreasonable behaviour" was engineered to gain a divorce when the simple truth should have been, "I'm fed up"

[MWB]

That is abysmal, whiffy. Nasty woman.

Slight off subject here, but I heard of a case, well over 25 years ago, of a woman who cited the reason she wanted a divorce was because he didn't put the toothpaste cap back on.

She got the divorce!?

Guess what country? LOL.

[888sally888]

Thank you all for your answers. My reasons are jealously to the point of being scared to look or talk to other men. Also his low self esteem meant he thought I would leave him all the time. We had councelling and i tried. We have splt up loads of times before and the final straw was when he threatened to leave and take the dog. At this point i slapped him and there is no going back ever.

[JoshuaShoun]

It would be good if you could reach mutual agreement with your spouse, that way you can save a big amount of money. I have experience of using online services for divorce in my state:divorceonlineutah.com, I payed 300$ instead of 12000$ as lawyers said.

[JoshuaShoun]

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[fiction-factory]

Hopefully, after 10 years this has been resolved but if anyone from Utah happens to stumble on this thread they may appreciate your link if they can work it out, Josh