domestic violence abh charge

[shabnam]

hi this is my first thread so please help me i have been with my partner for over 10 yrs he beat me up and was arrested and charged with abh and is on bail his conditions are to have no contact via third party etc
the social services came to see me and spoke to me and my daughter band was happy with what she saw and heard and said she would send me a copy of the report. the thing is i now want to withdraw my statement if i do this can they still use the photos of the injuries as evidence.and will social services see me as a risk again,
he is pleading guilty to the charges

[squarebear]

Don't withdraw your statement. He will only do it again.

[Bbbananas]

I second what squarebear has just said. Chances are it will happen again.
But even if you withdraw the charges, he can still be prosectuted - by the police themselves.

An ex-partner of mine assaulted me severely, after years of 'smaller incidents'. I rang the police & he was arrested. For reasons I don't want to go into, I did not prosecute - but the police made the prosecution.

[mccfluff]

squarebear that's not the question. i'm not an expert but if you drop the charges the i think the police will have to drop the case but i don;t know for sure. as for social service well i hope that they would put any child living in the house with a violent adult on the 'at risk' register

[redcrx]

they can still prosecute either way. If hes is pleading guilty and they have photos then why on earth are you wanting to withdraw the statement anyway

[Bbbananas]

Even if you drop the charges shabnam - the police can still pursue the prosecution themselves.

[shabnam]

thank you everyone for replying i just dont want any part in him been prosecuted and mccfluff he doesnt live with us he has his own place

[shabnam]

ahmskunnit thanks for ur response maybe i will get everything i deserve but i do know i will not be getting back together with him.

[PipinHull]

Just feel I have to respond to Ahmskunnirt's repugnant message. Women (and men) live with domestic violence for many reasons, none of which make them 'deserving of everything they get'. Nor does is make them selfish people who squander your tax. Have a little respect, empathy and grace.

[ummmm]

How many times has he hit you in the 10 years?

[shabnam]

more then a few but this time there will be no going back thats the difference
p.s thankyou pipinhull

[shabnam]

my sister will not withdraw her statement which states that she heard me crying on the phone and heard him shouting in the background does anyone know how long he will probably get

[sara3]

if he pleads guilty you will not have to give evidence. let your statement be used. he knows what he's done so will be facing the consequences anyway.

and don't take him back, it will never get better.

best of luck.

[ummmm]

Probably community service and a fine. I know people come on here quoting the sentencing guidelines but from I've seen they rarely stick to them. He might have to go to anger management as well.

[shabnam]

thank you all right now all i am thinking about is the social services and what they will be thinking
reassured i will not be taking him back. thanks sara3

[ummmm]

Social services are there to help and in most cases are very helpful. Don't worry..they will help you in anyway they can x

[shabnam]

what i mean is they have been and spoke to me and my daughter and was pleased with the outcome of the interview but will me withdrawing my statement have a different impact on their way of thinking.

[Androcles]

I know you want to distance yourself from anything nasty happening to him, but the only result may well be something else nasy happening to you. Police officers are human, if you keep complaining and then withdraw the complaint, they may well take you less seriously in future - why do all that work when they know you don't really mean it - they have enough else to do.

[ummmm]

No they won't. Their concern is the welfare of your child. Bad things happen in many people lives for various reasons. They do not take children away willy nilly. At worst they will come to check on you....not to judge you. They might even arrange support if they think it is needed.

You have to remember...SS leave children in households with drug addicts, alcoholics and dysfunctional families. As long as the child is fed, clean and happy they will not take them away. So please don't worry. They see situations a lot worse than yours.