fathers rights. help

[daned88]

I was posted a letter today (01/05/2010) and I was told that I had become a father. I have not yet taken a paternity test although i do full fully believe that I am the father of the child. the child was conceived after a night of spontaneous passion and the mother did not let me know that she was pregnant. Now I have been told that the mother does not want me to be involved in his life but wants financial support ( which I am happy to give) the mother also mentioned to take me to court if I do not support her financially. I have not been named on the birth certificate and I was wondering what my rights are on the matter. I am 22 years old and very distressed at the moment as this was the last thing I was expecting. any help would be appreciated.......in case you were wondering, safe sex was performed.
Thanks for listening.

[sara3]

safe sex doesn't usually produce babies. start putting money aside for the child, but don't hand anything over until a DNA test has been done.

[bobjugs12]

You want to be looking at getting legal advice mate.
She's done a number on you royally. Have you seen the baby, does it even exist?

[Androcles]

I would be very suspicious, if I were you as Bob and Sarah have said. Tell'em you ain't doing anything until you have direct proof.

[sara3]

who's Sarah?

;o)

[boxtops]

It's a bit steep saying you have to support your child but you aren't allowed to have anything to do with it. Seek legal advice - don't wait until you have the DNA result, find out where you stand now, so you are prepared.

[Barmaid]

She would not need to take you to Court for financial support she will need to get the CSA involved. Although I am quite anti the CSA, in this case, I would suggest you pay NOTHING until the CSA contact you. Because you are not on the birth certificate, unless you admit parentage (and given that you seem to know nothing about this until such time as the baby was born, I would do so) they cannot force you to pay without DNA evidence, which they can arrange, but you will have to pay for.

If it turns out that the child is yours, then the CSA will assess your financial contribution. If you want any contact with the child, unfortunately, you will have to apply to the Court for contact.

[Barmaid]

Now there is an example of what happens when you are trying to write an answer with a cat on your knee and your BF yacking in your earhole. Sorry it made no sense.

What I meant as is do NOT admit parentage, encourage the involvement of the CSA and get a DNA test.

[Androcles]

Sorry Sara - just a rubbish typist, that's all!