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HELP needed with a teenage son not going to school!!
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My son is 15 and in yr 11, for the past few months we have had problems gettin our him to school, he keeps saying he feels sick so we caled his bluff and took him to the docs a few weeks ago and nothng was found!! He is not being bullied and he is quite well liked with lots of friends at school, we had started punishing him by removing his ipod,mobile and new xbox, now hes got to the stage where he dont care if he no longer has these luxuries. His dad works full time and shift work, i only work 4 hours a day 4 days a week so he is home on his own, i am really at the end of my teather with this and any help or advise will be greatly appreciated.
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You need to ease up on the punishments, and pedal down on the support.
There must be a reason why he doesn;t want to go to school - not necessarily a valid one, or one you can allow him to exercise, but it wouold help if you could find out what it is.
Reassure him that you love him, and that you have his interests at heart, and you want to help with this issue - could be a step towards getting to the bottom of the problem.
You need to ease up on the punishments, and pedal down on the support.
There must be a reason why he doesn;t want to go to school - not necessarily a valid one, or one you can allow him to exercise, but it wouold help if you could find out what it is.
Reassure him that you love him, and that you have his interests at heart, and you want to help with this issue - could be a step towards getting to the bottom of the problem.
It's a weird age especially for teenage boys, and it could be a form of depression, especially if he doesn't care what you take away from him. It sounds like anxiety and depression of some sort. Is he the sort that will open out to you, or if not to you to someone outside the family. He is in his GCSE year, has the pressure got to him?
he must be leaving school soon then? GCSEs coming up. My guess is its 'rabbit in a headlight' reaction to exam stress.
Is he academic? Is he expected good grades?
Reason I ask is because what you have said is exactly what we're going through with step-daughter. Any excuse to be off school. She's poorly prepared for her exams and she knows it. We've tried and tried but she's just not academic or motivated to do anything but stay in her room and play xbox, ipod etc.
Andy is certainly giving good advice with ease up on the punishment, it will only cause more stress. What will be, will be - he's only got 6 weeks of learning time left - its exams after Easter. Is he off to college?
Is he academic? Is he expected good grades?
Reason I ask is because what you have said is exactly what we're going through with step-daughter. Any excuse to be off school. She's poorly prepared for her exams and she knows it. We've tried and tried but she's just not academic or motivated to do anything but stay in her room and play xbox, ipod etc.
Andy is certainly giving good advice with ease up on the punishment, it will only cause more stress. What will be, will be - he's only got 6 weeks of learning time left - its exams after Easter. Is he off to college?
Sqad. Sometimes you make me so angry. That comment is ridiculous and unhelpful.
We went through great problems with my son at this age and he is certainly not one of life's losers. He went through a massive period of insecurity and worried us (and himself) to bits. He almost had a complete breakdown.
You don't know anything about laura's son and to say he is one of life's losers is just awful.
We went through great problems with my son at this age and he is certainly not one of life's losers. He went through a massive period of insecurity and worried us (and himself) to bits. He almost had a complete breakdown.
You don't know anything about laura's son and to say he is one of life's losers is just awful.
One of mine was the same, we both work full time and as far as we knew he was at school, he was leaving to go. It wasn't until his teacher phoned to say he hadn'd been in for over a month that we found out. He had just turned 16 the teacher asked why he was staying on at school, I said he either got a job, went to college or stay at school. In the end we let him leave, took a year to get a job, he is now 20 and working for himself and working very hard, we're very proud of him.
Maybe your son has had enough of school, some do. In Scotland kids can do a linked course with college at 15, this works really well for the ones that have had enough of school but need to stay for their age. This may be the way to go. Ask him.
Good luck never give up, just try a different course.
Maybe your son has had enough of school, some do. In Scotland kids can do a linked course with college at 15, this works really well for the ones that have had enough of school but need to stay for their age. This may be the way to go. Ask him.
Good luck never give up, just try a different course.