Fed Up Of Invites To Parties

[dave50]

Anyone else fed up of being invited to Christmas parties, friend's houses for drinks and get togethers and you feel obliged to go or you're though of as anti social? Well I feel like being anti-social cos I am getting tired of it, cant get time to do what we want to do.

[anneasquith]

you could always say no !

[factor-fiction]

Or you could tell people you're fed up of being invited. The invitations may stop then

[mccfluff]

you don't have to go, just be grateful you've been invited

[sunny-dave]

It's being so cheerful as keeps you going ...

[Baldric]

You sound like the 'life and soul of the party' dave50,
think how disappointed your myriad friends will be if you don't go!

[maggiebee]

Don't be so ungrateful, some of us (like me) would love to have loads of invites, but unfortunately they never come my way.

[nelliebee]

When we were a "we" the invites were constant, since losing my Husband people seem to think I would feel left out if they invited me and not a couple.
It would be appreciated more these days than probably before!! but why is it that everything changes on the social scene when one becomes "one".

[Mamyalynne]

An invite is surely just that - are you able to or would you like to attend?

I am not seeing the problem really.

[Mamyalynne]

Nellie, yes I know exactly what you mean.

[Sqad]

I am with you all the way dave.

We made it clear some 10 years ago that on my retirement and relocation, parties, dinner parties and social festivity would be a thing of the past.

It has worked and nobody invites us and happily we are not part of the British exPat society.

Some people, even single people would rather spend Xmas alone, than be exposed to a house full of "merrymakers" with kids shouting and misbehaving.

Had my fill of "socialising" particularly with people in which i had little in common but influential and keeping up my income.

Mr&Mrs sqad plus two cats and a quiet Xmas.

[gness]

But you are anti social, Dave. If we have cottoned on to that your friends must have surely.
For goodness sake just say, No thank you but we appreciate being asked. Then you will have the time to do all you want.

Have you considered that your friends just feel obliged to ask you...maybe they feel sorry for your other half...you being so cheerful....and they will be jumping for joy if you refuse.

What I suppose I have rudely said above is....For god's sake stop being so bloody miserable....or stop and think of people who would love an invite or two.....and are perhaps alone for the first time this Christmas.

[pretty_snowdrop]

I didn't think you had any friends!!!!

[dave50]

We like to do what we want to do, not be obliged to go here and there every other day.

[pretty_snowdrop]

I get the feeling its Mrs dave50 who is actually getting the invites and accepting them. Fake an illness and stay at home!

[mccfluff]

but you're not obliged, its an invitation, just say no if you don't want to go

[Mamyalynne]

It is the 'I am obliged to go' part I don't understand, seems you are taking that on yourself, have you ever tried saying 'Sorry, not up to it' or some similar waffle?

[Baldric]

You're not obliged'
Just say No,
They'll understand, and you know it makes

[sara3]

you might feel differently if the invitations stopped

[boxtops]

Lucky you, dave - that people even ask you. Just decline politely, say you've got something else on.

[murraymints]

Right I'll expect you at 7 Dave...best bib and Tucker....xx