I think the answer given by Jackthaht on that other thread @ 13.21, sums it up perfectly.
//I've posted this elsewhere before.....but....
a) both 'feminine' females
b) both 'masculine' females.
c) one 'feminine' the other 'masculine'.
In group a) both girls have got what they were looking for.
In group b) both girls have got what they are looking for.
In group c) both girls have got what they are looking for.
And I'll think you'll find that none of these groups require any sort of input or validation from heterosexual men, or women.//
And she should know.