I completely agree with everything you said pigeon and you said what you were thinking very well and didn't sound heartless at all.
I've been thinking exactly the same as you, especially the part about the parents being questioned about neglect, and everyone I've spoken to has said the same thing. You're completely right about the media picking and choosing what cases to talk about while completely ignoring others too. It's bad enough imagining what the poor little girl is going through/has gone through but the parents role in it and the media's reaction to it has made it even more unbearable.
I just hope she's okay, along with the thousands of other missing children too. x