asked out!!!!!

[EngTeach]

Last night i went to a country club with my friend's family for karaoke. It was quite nice and everyone was fun. I am standing there minding my own business and this guy starts talking to me asking if he knows me from such and such bar. I was polite and said No. He went right in for the kill and said "You are very pretty, would you like to go out for dinner?"

Now, I do give him credit for approaching me cold like that, but he did not even try to chat me up a bit. I did find out he lives about 45 min from me and that includes crossing a bridge. (ugh) He was a friend of the DJ, so it was not even like we could get a little info from another club member. I have no way of bridging the gap. I wiould never meet him alone. He gave me his #. I am not inclined to call, but what do you think?????

[Ice.Maiden]

Way to go! What have you got to lose ET? His approach might've been slightly different to what you've been used to, but you could try asking the DJ about him first, or phoning the guy up and suggesting you meet with some friends - say for a drink. After that, you should be able to see a little of what he's like. Good luck to you! x

[MONTCRIEFF49]

go go go go

for the high jump

bridge over troubled waters

was the dj nice tho

xxxxxxxxxxxx

[EngTeach]

I know I should give it a go, but there is no mutual friend thing and I really did not talk with the DJ/Host guy. They have him at this private club about once a month though. If I were to see hima again and get to chat a bit, rather than the pressure of meeting with friends.... I went with my friend's parents, who i adore, and friends of theirs. We're trying to get a little info from the woman who runs the events though. I had a good time there and would like to go back and see if he's there again though before anything else. Should I wait and ring him if I go again for the karaoke next time?

I do want to meet someone, but part me feels like I don't want to go through all the trouble. I know that's messed up but..... been through the wringer a few too many times.

[Ice.Maiden]

I believe in try, try, and try again, ET. I really can't see the harm in giving this person a bell. You must be attractive for this guy to've made a comment - so feel good about yourself and go for it! You'll never know unless you give it a bash, and at least the guy didn't pester you, like some do. I'd ring him, and say you'll be going along to the next karaoke if he wants to join you there, and see how things go.

[perigra]

why are bridges so important?

[EngTeach]

Good Idea Ice. Like my friend's always say, "It's not like I have to marry him." (Which we call the kiss of death, since that's what has happened. HaHa)

The bridge thing is traffic/traffic and more traffic, plus the ever increasing toll prices. It can make a 40 minute trip twice that length here in NYC. He also asked me how far over the bridge I live. It is a problem here. I call it being geographically desirable. LOL

[pastafreak]

Hi EngTeach...I guess you (or he) will have to decide if desireability is in direct or inverse proportion to distance,cost and time-lol....life's a b***h!!......What part of NYC do you live in or near?

[Petal~flower]

you liked him?

If yes, then give it a go.

better than spending an evening on here lol

[perigra]

yup if you like him go for it despite the bridges x

[EngTeach]

Hi Pasta,

I live outside of Manhattan in a part of NYC called Queens. As the crow flies, i am less than 20 miled from Manhattan, but getting there is abit of a problem.

[pastafreak]

I grew up on Long Island...my brother lives in Westbury

[Ice.Maiden]

Lucky devils. I would've loved to've settled in the US. We have relatives in Michigan, and it's SOOOooooo fab there.

[pastafreak]

I never went further west than Ohio.....maybe will someday if I ever move back.

[Ice.Maiden]

Excuse me one sec ET - thanks for the invite Pasta. Added you - x.
Thanks EngTeacher - x

[pastafreak]

Has ET left us????

[~max~]

Has ET finally called home? lol

*boom boom*

[EngTeach]

I'm here. Am doing 10 things at once tonight.

So to some up.... Try to see him at the public place again. Maybe I will call later this week. It so hard to meet people, so I should at least meet him half way.

[Ice.Maiden]

No one fanciable at work? No.....there isn't where I work either - which is from home! The gardener's almost 60, the guy who works in the yard's about the same. Nope - think I'll stick with The husband!

[EngTeach]

Oh Ice I am laughing at that. i did date someone from work a while back. It ended very badly. It was quite awkward and I was happy when he left the school.

I kind of like the ease of knowing someone through friends or in a mutual setting.

I did feel good to get some interest. It has been a loooong time since anyone has looked twice. It must be the 4 pounds I lost from Weight Watchers last week. LOL

[pastafreak]

Icey---is that gardener single..? she said with a glint in her eye