getting over the one you love

[carliex]

so i have a 2 year old and been with someone a year now, i love him and he love me but i cant stay with him any longer im fed up! He goes pub twice a week gets pretty drunk, once or twice a month he wil go out ignore my calls or turn his phone off then sometimes come to mine at 5 in mornin or say he is and not turn up cus he falls asleep at his mates or so he says, he lies constantly about money to me and his mum who he still lives with at 28! Always says he cant pay bored and comes out with excuses why he has no money he comes to mine eats my food stays over asks me for money i have not got, says he nippin shop and gets seen in bookies, now iv put this all in words sounds bad so why do i keep sayin im being silly to myself and that im being a drama queen about it cus all i want is a family. My family really dont like his mum tells me he is a waste of space, iv tryed leavin him its like he gets in my head makes me feel like im the problem, i ended it after the last time he said he fell asleep at his mates but then i begged him to come back to me? He really tryin now but how long for? Plus if my family find out im still with him they will be so upset with me may even fall out with me! I need to end it but how i cant do it! I can see me havin nothing in life with him but i cant stay away from him

[B00]

Imagine him first thing in the morning.

Yawning, farting and scratching his nether regions- that ought to do it.

[Count-A-Strong]

You obviouisly see him as a partner for life nad he sees you as a doormat / f*** buddy. It will be painful but as the wise man said, every journey starts with a single step.

[carliex]

but he tells me he really loves me and cant live without me

[B00]

If he loved you, he wouldn't treat you like a doormat, and more importantly if you'd any respect for yourself you wouldn't allow yourself to be treated this way either.

Short response- he doesn't love you, and you're a mug.

[Count-A-Strong]

Yeah, he would. You're a gravy train with MUG written on your forehead to him. Sorry for being so blunt but you need to make the break and find someone who really loves you.

[Count-A-Strong]

snap BOO!

[Ankou]

tell him to go away and take stock of his life, then give your 2 year old a wondrful christmas. jod done.

[B00]

GMTA eh CAS?

[Count-A-Strong]

absofekinlootly

[Whoever]

Ask anybody who has ever lived with an alcoholic how their lives have been completed wasted by living with somebody who is a waste of space and only lives for the next cheap thrill in a glass of booze or another bet, and you could fill several counties of England. Do you really know what you're letting yourself in for staying with this individual who has no self discipline and treats you like dirt.
You sound as if you're still young and have your life in front of you. You may want a family but do you really want to inflict on a future child a father who is totally useless and who will be no good to you as a partner, or to your child as a father.
Don't you think you deserve better than this? Of course you can stay away from him. Do you really want to self-destruct? What advice would you give to a good girlfriend who was going out with a waste of space like this? You talk as if you have no other alternatives in life. Walk away completely. Cut off all ties with him and you'll soon start to see that the world offers you other more pleasant and rewarding opportunities.