He doesnt like me and im gutted...

[8myusername8]

I really liked this guy, he apparently liked me (he said) & then met another girl. Me? well I'm gutted. He's been ignoring me for NO reason. I am so fussy that when I do meet someone I like, Im genuinely keen. I feel SO rubbish. How can I get over this rubbish feeling? Please dont say be with mates as to be honest all my mates are married with kids and hardly make time for me in there busy schedule of work and wife/mother duties. :(

[andy-hughes]

I am so sorry this has happened.

Apart from losing the object of your affections, you've lost him to someone else, so hurt and a self-esteem battering, a lousy combination!

You need to take time to get over this. Be nice to yourself. What ever you enjoy - movies, chocolate, lie-ins, indulge yourself, but keep it in proportion.

This awful feeling will fade, so give yourself some time, and remember, although this man may not be the one for you, that doesn't mean he is the only one - you will make other friends, and someone will come along when you are not looking.

Take care of yourself, and don't let this get too much for you. There is always support on here, so keep posting.

[8myusername8]

Thanks Andy. :) yea it feels pretty horrible really considering how nice he was to me before he left me. He didnt even tell me he was off me he just ignored me and I seen him with his new girl. I dont feel like I have enough mates to help me right now.

[askyourgran]

8my it's a rotten feeling when you are turned down. But you'll just have to face it if he isn't interested there's nothing you can do about it. Move On. His Loss. It's just your pride thats dented. Everyone has a different idea of their ideal person don't feel bad about it, time is on your side.

[8myusername8]

Thanks ask... I know i know all that. I just need time. I'll be fine. Thanks though

[andy-hughes]

The problem is, your rational mind can give you all the right answers - his loss ... someone else out there ... not the end of the world ... and so on, but your emotional mind, the part you cannot control, wants to weep and roar at the sheer unfairness of it all.

That's the part you have to live with, while it calms down and assimilates what has happened, which does take some time.

Hang on in there.

[LoftyLottie]

That happened to me once. It is so awful when someone doesn't even have the decency to tell you things are over and then you see them with somebody else. I was only young, 17. You sound as if you might be older as your friends are married with kids.

I feel for you. But to be honest if he has acted like this you are better off without him. He's a coward.

This is no help to you, but I just wanted to say that I have been there.

[Sqad]

So, you have been dumped........everyone has been dumped at some time. That feeling will eventually go but in the meantime, suffer the emotion and get on with life.

[andy-hughes]

I think the lack of respect in telling you face to face that he is seeing someone else is just an extra twist of the knife.

As I mentioned, your self-esteem has taken a battering, but it will repair - promise!

[merciasounds]

You need to get out and get yourself some single friends, some people you can go for a drink with after work, or out clubbing at the weekend. Look in the local paper for singles nights or gogle singles i your area - dosen't have to be a dating site, just people of both sexes who want to widen their circles of friends. Or y not try internet/speed dating - loads of busy people do it, there's no shame it's how people meet these days!

[rowanwitch]

And don't forget that old standby the evening class languages are always good, so if you don't find friends you end up with a good skill for your CV

[pa___ul3]

I have to admit I've done similar in the past, it's nothing personal, he obviously just likes this other girl more, for whatever reason (different people like different things so you can never tell).
The fact is, he did like you, he obviously fancied you, so there's always going to be others out there who fancy you and like you too!
For the record, the girl I done similar to is now with some big buff half Spanish lad with a flash car and they're moving to Madrid so everyone was a winner!!

[andy-hughes]

I don't really think that you can say it's 'nothing personal' paul - that's exactly what it is!

[8myusername8]

just wanted to let you all know that he still hasnt contacted me, so I deleted his number and removed him from my social network site. Feels a bit better now that he is gone. will be trying the dating site as you said and will defo need to get a new group of single mates to hang with as yea, my mates are all settled down x

[boxtops]

When I was on my own I joined an amateur drama club - you don't need to want to act, they are always looking for people to help backstage, costumes, etc. Not only was it great fun, it kept me really busy and I made some new no-strings friends.