Sorry to dampen anyoones sunday but... I wanted to get advice from outsiders, my friends all have opinions and what not but i feel like i need to hear it from outsiders.
So ive been with myq boyfriend since july last year. We have an absolutely amazing bond. We're so close and spend about 5 days out of 7 together, really miss each other when we're not together etc...
But...he has terrible moodswings especially when he's been drinking. Weve broken up so many times before but it tends to be over silly srguments and both of us are very stubborn and strong willed so it tends to just make an argument worse. Last night we had an argument he stormed off down the pub and i had a feeling he'd be there so i went down. At first he was mad then we had quite a good night but on going home he kicked off again and we had a war of words and now he says the relationship is dead to him and hasnt spoken since 3am this morning. My head thinks the sensible thing to do is walk away but he's my first love, first boyfriend, my best friend and i think i'll go crazy not being eith him. Is it best to walk away or do i give him time to come to his senses? He normally does but i'm not sure this time...thanks for any advice
I think the reason for you asking this question, is you already know the answer.
He may be your first love and you will always have a soft-spot for him, but it is time to walk away.
You won't go crazy without him in your life, it might feel like that for a while, but it will fade.
Yes we've both been violent towards each other. I spend more time with him than anybody else its going to be so hard i can't even bear the thought of not texting him again or anything
Delete his number from your phone, spend more time with your pals, and ask them to keep their opinions to themselves, it was your relationship, not theirs.
If they are true friends, they will be there to support you.
Oh you know the answer. He's not good for you, you are not good for him....Get out of this toxic relationship before one of you really damages the other.
I think you are going to find that the majority of ABers will feel that you should ditch him. He's not worth keeping if he has to run to the pub because you have words and then arrives back home to quarrel further.
AvaD, as redman41 said, there “are plenty more fish in the sea.” To carry on the theme, I think it’s time to abandon ship: you know it’s sinking don’t you? Find a new ship-mate and sail off happily into calmer and more serene waters.
And from what I've witnessed abusive relationships are addictive to some. It's like they are addicted to the adrenaline rush they get from arguing with other.
Get out while you can and realise that although soulmates fall out occasionally they don't break up a relationship and they certainly don't hit each other.
In my experience with both of you drinking & rowing, things will only escalate which could result in serious injuries (mainly to yourself). Please move on.
my old gran used to say "stand at the bus stop my girl, there will be another one along in a minute" ditch him, don't mope, get out and enjoy yourself.