Thinking About This For Some Time

[jennyjoan]

Have you - some friends have asked me - did I have any regrets before leaving this world.

Early in my life - it would have been not having kids.

Mid life contacting that guy in London to get IVF - then I cancelled.

Now if I am being truthful - sad that when I go out of this life - I am not an accomplished musician cos with having photographic memory I know I would have picked up and learnt the music notes and being able to play

Organ
Clarinet
Piano

Bhodhran (not important)

As above - I did learn some notes via one to one teachers and classes - then I took ill and couldn't follow the left hand music notes.

But the be all and end all - I would have left to leave this life as an extremely accomplished musician. THAT;S MY BIGGEST REGRET.

[Mamyalynne]

Not a big fan of regrets, and you aren't at the end yet JJ - parenthood may be out but you could still learn an instrument.

[Cloverjo]

OK, it’s too late to have children, but as Mamya said it’s not too late to play music.
I’m trying to get rid of a couple of guitars. Maybe someone near you has some other instruments going.
Don’t just sit and regret. Go and do it, JJ.

[Buenchico]

I've got too many regrets to list them all.

However I understand what you say about not becoming a decent musician. When my grandmother died (while I was still at junior school), my parents could have had the piano from her house and they offered me piano lessons. That would have meant me going to the piano teacher's house down the road though and, having been brought up never to go into the house of any adult who wasn't a family member, the thought of doing so absolutely terrified me. So I declined the offer of piano lessons.

A few years later, when I'd got more self-confidence, I asked my parents if I could have piano lessons after all but, of course, by then there was no piano available for me to practise on (and my parents certainly couldn't afford to buy one), so my request had to be turned down.

My two best friends at college were both music students (with one being an excellent clarinet player and the other being fantastic on the piano) and my total inability to play a musical instrument (beyond what I'd learnt on the descant recorder at junior school) always bugged me.

[waterboatman]

We've all done, or not done, things we regret, but it can't be done,or undone. All we can do is make the best we can of any, and every situation as it presents itself with the information we have at the time. What's done is done. What's to come, deal with the best we can.

[ummmm]

No regrets. Nothing I ever had any control over anyway.

[maggiebee]

"Regrets, I've had a few, but then again too few to mention."
Frank Sinatra