Men and love!!

[happygam]

Hi guys....can you help...do you men actually fall in love...when you do, how do you feel and do you find it easy to let the lady in question know - what clue's do you give away??

[noxlumos]

I'm head over heels in love with my wife and I tell her on a daily basis, buy her surprises, phone her unnecessarily, make love to her frequently lol.
I have been in love before and not been this demonstrative, I thought the person would realise and of course they didn't because people aren't psychic by and large so she felt undervalued and in the end the relationship dissolved because of that.
I'ts not easy deciding to tell a woman you love them for the first time as there is the rejection fear etc and i don't think we are particularly good at it, but I got a very positive response from my wife so now it's easy. If the reception had been luke warm, I'd probably have shut my mouth and never opened it again on the subject.

[happygam]

Awww, your wife is a lucky lady!!! I'v met someone (the situation is hard tho), I have fallen head over heels for a man...i think he feels the same - just a couple of clues that he's given me - I can imagine that it is hard for a man to say the words - I want to say them, but I don't find it easy at all - no confidence or guts!!! Thanks for your guidance!!

[-Zorro-]

Nox, is this your wife


http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n223/Zorro7 77/Noxswife.jpg

[Llamatron]

I told a girl I loved her once.

I had never before and haven't since experienced anything so intense, so all consuming, it became my life.

I knew she didn't feel the same and never would and there was nothing I could do abou it. It tore me apart that it wasn't reciprocated but I just had to put words to what I was going through. I had to tell her.

She was the only girl that's ever heard me say those three little words. It kills me to know that I'll never get to say them again and even worse that I'll never hear them.

Love is pain. And I regret what I put myself through every day.

They say it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all - what an utter lie.

[noxlumos]

No sadly not zorro :)

[-Zorro-]

There cant be that many Irish actresses (maybe 10 or 11 thousand) ......we'll suss who she is eventually

[Pippa68]

Nox ~ Mr P has allowed me to put you on my list of 'must haves'..hope that's ok with you :o)

You sweetie!

[noxlumos]

Ooooh thanks Pippa:) perfectly alright, feel free :)
Zorro... she's NOT Irish. I'm Irish and her cousin that I was married to previously is, but she's not, confusing though that may sound.

[happygam]

Hey llamatron, at least you had the guts and the confidence to tell her - which is more than me!! You may get to say them again...and I am sure they will be recipricated - no one knows what is going to happen in our future - sometimes I wish I knew!! I am one to think, never regret anything - but If i am honest, I would probably regret saying it - but then I think - I would probably regret NOT saying it - life is tooooo short - thats what I keep telling myself anyway....thanks...

[Llamatron]

Trust me, confidence had nothing to do with it. I already knew nothing would come of it so it's not like I was risking rejection or anything. I was kind of lost, there was no real thought put in to what I was doing.

It's nice of you to say it'll happen again but you don't know me and what I'm like. Thanks anyway.

[ummmm]

You may be a bit like me Llamatron! Not easy is it?