Gay ... But Not Really

[joggerjayne]

The Church now says that it will be okay to be a gay Bishop ...

... as long as you don't actually "do gay stuff".

So they are only allowed to be "gay" in their heads.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-13831162

If you can be gay without actually doing gay things, then I am teetotal, and a vegetarian.

Is this another instance of the Church leaders having no grasp of reality?

[rov1100]

God punishes the sin not the sinner. So I suppose they can always kneel down every week and ask for forgiveness which is always granted.

[Sqad]

JTH

<<<<<<<If you won't accept my word on the matter what would suffice ? >>>

Good point ?

<<<at a young age, it really isn't about 'sex'>>>

I accepted that in my comment.....

<<<<I think that you are talking about the fully grown and developed of the human species. >>>>

<<<<I knew at an early age that it was 'girls' for me>>>

Do you mean to play with, dress like.......what?

[sp1814]

This is an interesting broader picture. You don't really need to actually have sex to know whether you're gay or straight. You just need to know what you prefer.

Therefore, technically there should be no barrier to a gay bishop being elected, so long as they didn't actually have sex - because if they did, they would be breaking 'the house rules'.

I mean...you can't support a straight bishop who commits adultery, because that's against the rules too.

Fair's fair...

[emmie]

as long as they are celibate, what nonsense, its how the church has got into this mess in the first place, telling people not to have sex,
straight or gay, seems stupid. I mean be married to God if you want, but have the same rights as everyone else, get married, have children, have a life, as well as being part of the church. I heard it on the news this morning, i think they have totally lost the plot.

[jackthehat]

It's difficult to try and explain exactly how it felt......

I just 'preferred' them.

[bednobs]

actually i'm interested too. I have only ever slept with blokes, and i think some women are incredibly attractive or beautiful and compelling. How do i knw iwouldn't prefer to be gay, without actually comparing? Or is the fact that i've only slept with blokes my answer?

[jackthehat]

That's it, bednobs.
The fact that you've never been sufficiently compelled to sleep with a woman probably indicates where your true focus lies.....
Although, after a rom-com and a box of wine with a 'fascinating' friend.....who knows? :o)

[sp1814]

joggerjayne

FYI this is Tom Hardy. I think you'll agree - he's not exactly 'ugly':

http://www.nndb.com/p...tom-hardy-1-sized.jpg

[sp1814]

bednobs

I don't know how true this is generally, but from my own experience, it seems that women are far more comfortable expressing admiration for another woman's looks without actually being gay themselves.

Girls I know can state, "Wow...did you see Beyonce/Shakira/Rihanna's new video - she looked so sexy" without meaning "I would like to sleep with them".

For whatever reason - socially a man can't do that.

Imagine a straight bloke saying - "I went to see that Daniel Craig film last weekend...he looked really sexy in those beach shorts"

Can't be done.

It would be like one of those western movies where everything goes silent in the saloon.

[joggerjayne]

Thanks, sp.

Tom Hardy is pretty nice.

And you're so right about expressing admiration. When I turn up in my hot new jeans, I totally expect my girl friends to notice, with a loud "Oh my god, you look amazing!"

I think guys are not so good at that.

"Ow wow, mate ... that new tee shirt makes your chest look really good."

"Oh, cheers mate. Another lager?"

LOL

[sp1814]

joggerjayne

Yep - you've hit the nail on the head. It's the same thing with clothes shopping. Women can go shopping with their girlfriends and them what they think of the clothes they're trying on.

Blokes shopping together would be a disaster:

"What do you think of these jeans on me? Do they suit me?"

"Ummm...I honestly don't care"

[anotheoldgit]

Gays are always saying that they want to be taken seriously, and if anyone dares to say anything that offends them, they are usually labelled as homophobic.

What I wish to ask is, why are some always portrayed as comic figures on TV, who expect to receive what could be only construed as tongue in the cheek innuendoes regarding their sexuality?

The following are good examples, Graham Norton, Alan Carr, Paul O’Grady Julian Clary, and Antony Cotton