Nigella Lawson

[andy-hughes]

Given that Charles Saatchi is digging an even bigger hole for himself by trying to pass off assaulting his wife as simply attending to her personal appearence -

What would you do if your partner decided to do the same thing in a public place?

For the record, the present Mrs Hughes would have brained me with the nearest blunt object - but personally, i would not dream of invading her personal space in such a manner - in public or in private.

What do you think?

[daffy654]

He attended to her personal appearance by grabbing her throat repeatedly? Not sure that explanation works for me.

[aelmpvw]

i agree with your opening statement andy, someone should take the spade off mr saatchi

[2sp_]

^^ Or just fill in the hole while he's still in it.

[andy-hughes]

Actualy, daffy, it's not the throat-grabbing that is now being debated.

During the same incident, Mr Saatchi was photographed grabbing his wife's nose and twisting it, and then inserting his index finger in one of her nostrils. When questioned, he said he was removing an obstruction (he used a more basic word) but I wonder how many AB'ers would either do the same, or tolerate it being done to them?

[rockyracoon]

Mr Racoon knows better than to interfere with my personal appearance. I'm not at all like Nigella with her dignified silence, being that I'm like a raving lunatic when I get going the whole restaurant would have been in uproar by the time I'd finished.

[naomi24]

Pulling and twisting someone’s nose seems rather an odd thing to do. So childishly spiteful. The actions of an inherent bully. I think he’s a weirdo.

Me? Once he’d let go of my nose, I’d have recovered my dignity, held my head high, and left the restaurant as speedily and as quietly as possible – and I wouldn’t go back to him - ever.

[ludwig]

I've seen the nose twisting pictures. It's pretty horrible. It's clearly a deliberately nasty assault. You do wonder why she didn't defend herself physically at the time, but we don't know the psychology of the relationship.

At any rate, she's well rid of him.

[ChillDoubt]

If she needs a place to crash, she's more than welcome....

[Slapshot]

Would never happen. My wife was a victim of an abusive alcoholic ex husband who really beat the crap out of her....it took her a long time to trust me even things like sneaking up behind her for a cuddle were no-nos for a lot of years.

The man is an ass, she can do much better

[naomi24]

Ah, you can't cook, eh, Chill? ;o)

[Quoi]

He/she would have been wearing whatever it was they were planning to eat.
No way would I contemplate it or tolerate it and I would have intervened if i had been there.

[ludwig]

I makes one wonder what kind of 'tiffs' they had in private if he was prepared to do that kind of stuff in public.

[Baldric]

OH did mention that I'd have been too busy removing the Fork from my forehead to worry about her appearance for any length of time!
I taught her (too) well!

[naomi24]

Ludwig, yes, it certainly does.

[andy-hughes]

I agree, such invasion of personal space is the mark of a bully.

A woman I used to work with complained often of how her husband would take hold of her ears during an argument, in spite of her persistently telling him she did not like it - obviously the reason for him to do it all the more.

My advice was to take advantage of his close proxminity and indulge in a fast and hard knee/testicles interface, with the advice that subsequent repeats would incur the same 'kneejerk' reaction.

I suspect a repeat would not be forthcmong!

As far as Ms. Lawson goes, this behaviour suggests an extgention of behind-doors bullying that feels so natural to Mr Saatchi that he feels comfortable doing it in public.

Which is worrying to say the least.

[andy-hughes]

Ludwig - our posts have crossed - which indicates that we take a similar view on this abhorrant behaviour of this odious man.

[ummmm]

My OH checks my makeup and straightens the back of my hair before we go out. That's what I consider attending my personal appearance!

[naomi24]

Andy, it's not the invasion of personal space that strikes me as odd. It's the action of pulling and twisting someone's nose. That is just such an awful thing to do. So disrespectful - and that's an understatement!

[Octavius]

Unless she is cooking up a giant plan to divorce him and take him for all he's got, I can't understand why he is getting all the pap treatment, yet she has remained in silence and not taken the prime media moment to speak out about domestic abuse. She has the ideal presence, following and platform. Am I missing something?

And regards the OP, Mrs O often needs her nose picking, and likewise she is there to wipe my a_

[andy-hughes]

naomi24 - the invasion and its action are one and the same - deigned to humiliate and cower the recipient. Her absence of reaction suggests that this is far from the first time that this has occured.