The Mail Online (can't do links, sorry), has an article where a Miss (says it all!) Lucy Emmerson has advised parents not to kiss their grandparents as they will be prone to sexual abuse! They should wave or 'high 5' them instead!
You couldn't make it up!
Human nature is strange isn't it? when grandparents were children they probably didn't want to kiss their grandparents, yet feel slighted when their grandchildren feel the same.
I was brought up by my gt grandmother whom I adored. Never thought of not kissing and cuddling. My grandchildren are also very affectionate to us and their aunts. Sometime they don't want to kiss or cuddle and I would never force them. After a while we usually get a surprise hug on their own terms!
This Miss (says it all) is saying just that. Forcing a child is wrong.
// But parents who force their sons and daughters to give granny a peck on the cheek may be doing them harm, it was claimed yesterday.
For instead of helping a child learn about showing affection, it may blur the boundaries of what is acceptable when it comes to physical contact. Consent begins at year zero. //
/// Surely sensible parents don't make or persuade their children to kiss or hug if the child is not comfortable with it? ///
It is all dependant on how good you bring your children up.
Children lean from a very early age, even before they are old enough to make decisions of their own, thus good parents from the very start teach their children respect and good manners, so therefore in a happy household a child would naturally be familiar at showing love and affection towards their relatives, that is of course if the relative returns that love and affection.
However, our children only kiss who and when they want. Sometimes I'll ask the 3 year old for a kiss and she will say no and it's fine. She will probably be looking for a kiss herself in 5 minutes.
I do think kids should be allowed to make the decision themselves. Teaches them that they have ultimate control over physical contact with others.
/// The wifes family really get my goat with this issue, they are overly kissy and expect my kids to be the same. I do tell them to give it a
rest. ///
AOG, I was brought up to respect others and with good manners, it didn't change the fact that I really didn't like the smell of Yardley and face powder!
Then I am often accused of harping back to my past good halcyon days.
Yes they were good, we never had to address these kind of problems way back then.
Why we even addressed our neighbours as Mr or Mrs, knew our manners and found no difficulty in hugging and kissing dear Grandma and Grandad and other close relatives.
/// AOG, I was brought up to respect others and with good manners, it didn't change the fact that I really didn't like the smell of Yardley and face powder! ///
Yes I know what you mean, i once had a ballroom dancing teacher who smelt the same, and I had to make continuous contact with her throughout my lessons, but surely one's love for one's relatives overcome such unpleasant smells.
I agree with woofgang and gromit. It shouldn't be forced. My sister's ex annoys her, by saying to their (now 8) daughter, "you'd give me a kiss if you loved me" with a sad face. Wait until men are saying that to her in ten years time and see what he's taught her, then.
Ps. I dislike that "modern parenting" comment. If the previous generation were such fantastic parents, how come they haven't managed to teach it to their children?
My sister's ex annoys her, by saying to their (now 8) daughter, "you'd give me a kiss if you loved me" with a sad face. Wait until men are saying that to her in ten years time and see what he's taught her,
then. ///
Seems to me that your sister seems to have been teaching her daughter to also dislike her father, just because your sister has had problems with him.
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