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Mikaeel
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This will be very controversial I know, but please believe me when I say I'm not being judgmental, just curious.
Why do people take toys to the sites where flowers are laid for people who have had tragic deaths?
I can understand it with flowers as we have always used flowers as a tribute, but the toys have only seemed to start recently.
Also where do they go afterwards?
I do hope I don't offend anyone with this question.
Why do people take toys to the sites where flowers are laid for people who have had tragic deaths?
I can understand it with flowers as we have always used flowers as a tribute, but the toys have only seemed to start recently.
Also where do they go afterwards?
I do hope I don't offend anyone with this question.
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That is a great article in the DM although very harsh. I wonder how much these other children will be scarred by what they have been forced to hear about? The fact that King George VI 'died in his sleep' in 1952 affected me very badly, (I was 11) and I was afraid to go to sleep for many, many years. It's only comparatively recently that we found out he had lung cancer.
So - this little boy's mummy has (possibly) killed him will frighten the living daylights out of most of these little ones. They don't need to know that. It's a minefield, isn't it.
So - this little boy's mummy has (possibly) killed him will frighten the living daylights out of most of these little ones. They don't need to know that. It's a minefield, isn't it.
Carol Sarler's opinion pieces are tagged with 'Are You Thinking What She's Thinking?' - and I usually think ' 'I hope not!' and I avoid reading them, but on this occasion, i do agree with her.
As I stated in an earlier post, this mawkish desire to jump on a grief train is an unfortunate aspect of modern culture - but it's there, and we have to live with it.
As I stated in an earlier post, this mawkish desire to jump on a grief train is an unfortunate aspect of modern culture - but it's there, and we have to live with it.
Being a Time Team fan, I can't help thinking of these gifts in the context of "grave goods" or "votive offerings".
Makes you wonder if we're slowly drifting back towards pagan culture and practices.
For some of us, it's sufficient to keep our sympathies for his family to ourselves, or talk with our friends about it. For those living closer to the incident, maybe there is just a natural tendency to be a bit more demonstrative in showing how you feel. It may only be a token item but it's the sentiment that matters, as the saying goes.
Viewed from a distance, it does have a hint of exhibitionism about it but I don't live there and it's really none of my business how they choose to do it.
Makes you wonder if we're slowly drifting back towards pagan culture and practices.
For some of us, it's sufficient to keep our sympathies for his family to ourselves, or talk with our friends about it. For those living closer to the incident, maybe there is just a natural tendency to be a bit more demonstrative in showing how you feel. It may only be a token item but it's the sentiment that matters, as the saying goes.
Viewed from a distance, it does have a hint of exhibitionism about it but I don't live there and it's really none of my business how they choose to do it.
The only place where i found the leaving of physical objects to have a resonance and relavence, was the Viet Nam Memorial in Washington.
If an vets' deaths are attributed to war injuries, their names are still added, so there are half-a-dozen new names added every year.
All the 'physical' memories are collected by volunteer attendents at the end of each day, and stored.
There are plans for a memorial museum to be built, but it has to come from public subscription - the government does not fund memorials.
One guide told me of some of the things left - a wedding dress by a bride whose dad was not there to walk her down th aisle, a $10 bill left - an unpaid debt before the lender was drafted - it's all heartbreaking.
The biggest item so far is a brand new Harley Davidson motorcycle, which still has the dealer tags attached. It was left by the wall one day, and the volunteers tracked down the people who had left it. It was a local biker gang who had saved up and bought the bike to leave - 'In case any of the brothers need a ride ...'
Now that is a memorial worth having - very different from the way people here do it, because only people connected leave things, there is no mass 'mourn-in' from needy strangers.
If an vets' deaths are attributed to war injuries, their names are still added, so there are half-a-dozen new names added every year.
All the 'physical' memories are collected by volunteer attendents at the end of each day, and stored.
There are plans for a memorial museum to be built, but it has to come from public subscription - the government does not fund memorials.
One guide told me of some of the things left - a wedding dress by a bride whose dad was not there to walk her down th aisle, a $10 bill left - an unpaid debt before the lender was drafted - it's all heartbreaking.
The biggest item so far is a brand new Harley Davidson motorcycle, which still has the dealer tags attached. It was left by the wall one day, and the volunteers tracked down the people who had left it. It was a local biker gang who had saved up and bought the bike to leave - 'In case any of the brothers need a ride ...'
Now that is a memorial worth having - very different from the way people here do it, because only people connected leave things, there is no mass 'mourn-in' from needy strangers.
