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What would we do without the invention of " 'gender-neutral parenting?"
There are many points that i would like to raise here, but just 2 come to mind.
Firstly, as Max is the only child in the house, how did he indicate to his parents that he preferred a tutu and little girls dresses or were they already by some magic, already at hand.
No, his parents introduced them to him....nurture....not nature.
Secondly.
She adds: ‘It doesn’t matter if he’s homosexual, bisexual, transsexual or asexual as far as I’m concerned. I didn’t give birth to him to say “I’m only going to love you if you’re this way”. I love him for who he is.’
If course, there is the possibility that he could be........"heterosexual."
That child will grow up being GAY...
What would we do without the invention of " 'gender-neutral parenting?"
There are many points that i would like to raise here, but just 2 come to mind.
Firstly, as Max is the only child in the house, how did he indicate to his parents that he preferred a tutu and little girls dresses or were they already by some magic, already at hand.
No, his parents introduced them to him....nurture....not nature.
Secondly.
She adds: ‘It doesn’t matter if he’s homosexual, bisexual, transsexual or asexual as far as I’m concerned. I didn’t give birth to him to say “I’m only going to love you if you’re this way”. I love him for who he is.’
If course, there is the possibility that he could be........"heterosexual."
That child will grow up being GAY...
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I know of a child and has/is being brought up as gay even though he is just a toddler. This has come from his 'modern parents' not from the child. They let him watch Cinderella and then are pleased that he wants tp wear a Cinderella Dress and not a cowboy outfit. There are too many examples to write them all here, but as he starts school he socially lost. The boys don't want to play with him because he has never kicked a football in his life, and the girls want to play with each other.
These parents are very foolish and selfish. Imprinting their social engineering beliefs on their offspring. There is plenty of sutle modifications to traditional upbringing that reflect modern life and equality of the sexes. But making your child live like the opposite sex and then bullshitting that it is because he/she chooses to do dishonest.
These parents are very foolish and selfish. Imprinting their social engineering beliefs on their offspring. There is plenty of sutle modifications to traditional upbringing that reflect modern life and equality of the sexes. But making your child live like the opposite sex and then bullshitting that it is because he/she chooses to do dishonest.
In principle, at least, the idea of not imposing gender stereotypes on children shouldn't be a bad thing. In practice, it does often seem as if every time a story like this happens, by some remarkable coincidence the boy plays mainly with girls' toys and vice versa. It could just be a selection bias -- after all, a boy playing with traditional boy toys is hardly news, so why report it? -- but it could also be that the parents who decide to raise their children in this way show some signs of disappointment if the child responds to "buy whatever you want" by choosing toys associated with their gender. I think it's likely that the baby is trying to do what he/ she thinks his/ her parents want.
It's a risky experiment, anyway, because even if adults do become understanding of this approach to parenting, it's a safe bet that other children won't be. We'll have to see how he grows up. If done right, Gender-Neutral Parenting should lead to some boys choosing to behave that way with no problems. Let's hope, then, for Max's sake, that his parents are doing it right.
It's a risky experiment, anyway, because even if adults do become understanding of this approach to parenting, it's a safe bet that other children won't be. We'll have to see how he grows up. If done right, Gender-Neutral Parenting should lead to some boys choosing to behave that way with no problems. Let's hope, then, for Max's sake, that his parents are doing it right.
interesting. I grew up wanting (and having) boys toys. I only wanted to wear trousers and shorts, but had to wear skirts and dresses to school (1950's/60's) No one batted an eye. I had two older sisters so there was a choice of toys in the house. I didn't want the dollies or to dress up as a princess or a "mummy" I grew up (and still am) hetero. Not sure why its such big news to give children a choice.....but giving choice is very different from enforcing any kind of stereotype. and no Sqad, the child won't grow up gay because he chooses to wear a tutu any more than I did because i chose to dress up as a cowboy and not a cowgirl.
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Why is it child abuse to buy the toys and clothes a child wants to wear, rather than what you and society want that child to wear?
If there was evidence that the parents were forcing the child to play with girls' toys, etc., it certainly would be child abuse. But absent such evidence, best thing to do is to not judge them too harshly. All we have is the Daily Mail report on this one, and that's not enough to reach conclusions about whether or not this is the parents forcing Max to do anything, or merely not forcing him.
If there was evidence that the parents were forcing the child to play with girls' toys, etc., it certainly would be child abuse. But absent such evidence, best thing to do is to not judge them too harshly. All we have is the Daily Mail report on this one, and that's not enough to reach conclusions about whether or not this is the parents forcing Max to do anything, or merely not forcing him.
Mixed feeling here. Om the one hand I'm unsure it is right to force folk to conform to society instead of be themselves, but on the other hand they do and will have to live in that same society, and so needs guidance on what will work best for them in their life. if he is deliberately brought up to be passive/non aggressive, that may well hinder him in trying to make a success of a later career. He might look back as an adult and realise it would have been better had he had a childhood which toughened him up a bit. Fought for what he wanted, within reason of course. I think these parents should consider back peddling a little, and realise it is society that needs to accept people, warts and all, before lumbering individuals, like their child, with being a passive rebel of sorts. it may well make for a stressful existence.
