Why Stop Drinking?

[ukanonymous]

I quit drinking over 2 weeks ago hoping I would feel better and happier in life but I feel even worse. I am not suicidal just really depressed about the world and people. I find it hard to find a reason to live in all of these human beings who kill others with no regrets and who only care about themselves and the people who they are genetically related too.

I was drinking over a bottle of wine every day just to give me some time to not care about how much I hate this world. Anyway at first when I stopped drinking I felt good as I had conquered it. Now I feel even worse as I am trapped in this nightmare with no temporary escape.

In a situation like this is it best to carry on drinking or see a psychologist? Everyone I know in our group thinks similarly to me but they drink or smoke weed for recreation and not to escape like me. The normal sheep people which are the normal population are even worse they are the people I hate and the people I want to escape from. I know I must be phycologically retarded in someway as I can not find why this race of mass murder and depletion of the planets natural resources is so great.

Do you think I drink, carry on like I am now or go see a head doctor?

[grasscarp]

ukanonymous, first of all congratulations for two sober weeks. I have stopped and joined the dry january set. I am doing it for my health as I have really been overdoing the alcohol. I stopped before for a few weeks and immediately got a flatter tum, reduced waist measurement and better skin. Also the liver completely regenerates with 6 weeks break.
Why not sign up to the dry January
https://registration.dryjanuary.org.uk/
They send you texts and emails to encourage you.
You already did 2 weeks so with this it will be 6 weeks and you will get the full benefit of he break.
Like you I enjoy wine very much and sober makes you face reality every day! Another benefit for you is that you can always get behind the wheel at the moment!
You need to find other things to help you relax and switch your brain away from pondering all the ghastly things going on in the world.
I hope this doesnt sound to preachy and that all goes well for you. I dont know anybody at all doing dry January, so would be pleased if you would join me x

[janbee]

I stop 1st jan every year and don't have another drinkie until my birthday in March. I always feel so much better when I don't drink. Trouble is, I do enjoy a small "refreshment" sometimes.
Well done on your 2 weeks off the juice.
xx

[237SJ]

Personally, I would go and see your GP because you sound like you are clinically depressed. Some of the depression could also be withdrawal from alcohol so staying off it is the best option.

[Old_Geezer]

You need to stop taking the world's worries onto your own shoulders. The secret is to filter your interaction with the world so you know enough to do good, but no so much as you are overwhelmed by what others do.

As to how you achieve that, well I'm no expert but I suspect it has something to do with relaxation activities, maybe meditation and/or hypnosis. Talking things over probably helps also.

Drink isn't any long term solution. Drink in moderation for pleasure not to blot things out.

I'm sure than logically you realise those that do evil things are in the minority. It seem more because such acts are newsworthy so get discussed/reported. Even if most folk are not your 'cup of tea' most are basically decent. If you keep that in mind it may help with perspective.

Learn to filter, you have only one guaranteed existence, the trick is to make the most of it and not dwell on that which upsets you but which you can not change.

Whilst planning for the future in moderation is just common sense, as is learning from the past, you should try to live more in the present and what is actually available to you, not spend time feeling bad over what is happening elsewhere such that it cripples your mind and what you can do.

Ultimately trying to find a reason for existence is futile. There may not even be one and if there is we may not realise what it is during our lifetime. It is a pointless worry. What you know you do have is a life that you need to make the most of.

Try some of those free self help remedies, if they don't do it for you then try another. If one does then great. Get religion if you like, no one knows any of them are actually wrong, it's just faith. Whatever helps you put this sate of mind behind you and to leave the bottle, used as some kind of relief, in the past.

[woofgang]

You know the answer don't you? Its your choice of course but all drinking will do is damage your body to a point where it won't repair. It will take more and more alcohol to give you an escape. I have seen people in the late stages of alcohol poisoning. They hallucinate, vomit and soil themselves without knowledge or control and then die horribly.
Well done on stopping drinking. You have taken back control and choice but its not enough. If you don't want to die then you now need to find a way to live and I think getting mental health help would be helpful in this.....but as I said, your choice. If you do want to die then maybe choose a less unpleasant method than alcohol?

[maggiebee]

Maybe the question shouldn't be "Why stop Drinking" but rather "Why start drinking in the first place". Just saying...................

[EDDIE51]

You need help to fight your depression. Well done for stopping drinking that is a good 1st step,now you need help to find a better way to get out of the depression. Drinking only masks the problem it does not cure it.

[Sqad]

\\\\I quit drinking over 2 weeks ago hoping I would feel better and happier in life but I feel even worse.\\\

Because you are an alcoholic.

\\\\ Also the liver completely regenerates with 6 weeks break.\\\\

Does it?

You need help....medical help .

See your GP.

[anneasquith]

if you have been drinking a bottle of wine every day and stopped completely, it may be one reason why you feel so bad, a visit to gp to discuss withdrawal/detox might help,, good luck .

[grasscarp]

I have read loads about liver regeneration Sqad
http://www.agedefyingbody.com/RegenerationSchedule.html

http://thehealthydrinker.com/2011/04/liver-regeneration-damage-drinking-alcohol/

There are loads of websites saying similar things. Time obviously depends on degree of damage. But without damage liver can be regenerated in as little as 45 days or 6 weeks.

Unless this is all wrong of course.

[woofgang]

Hmmm. Neither of those statements show any valid research base. Have you found anywhere that shows supporting valid research of such fast regeneration of the liver of an alcohol abuser without any other treatment?

[woofgang]

surely if the liver is not damaged, then there can be no regeneration, as no damage to repair?

[Sqad]

Grasscarp.

Yes, the liver does have powers of regeneration, if it is not "insulted" too badly.A binge or two now and again, an infection, can all be reversed by liver cell regeneration.

But please, do not think that liver cells will take insult on a daily, weekly, monthly onslaught, as the case we are discussing on this thread......and then conveniently regenerate...........they won't.
Hence we encounter the irreversible effects...liver failure, cirrhosis and the need for organ donation for liver transplants.

I have to be honest:
I haven't opened the links to the "healthy drinker" and "age defying body"......;-)

[Retrochic]

Sqad do you honestly believe that drinking one bottle of wine per day makes you an alcoholic?

[Sqad]

Yes.

But that is not my definition.

To me an alcoholic is someone who needs alcohol on a daily basis.

That is simply put.

[Retrochic]

ukanonymous I don't think its the fact you have stopped drinking wine that is making you feel like you do. You need to see your GP who will arrange for you to start counselling and perhaps prescribe an anti-depressant. Drinking to 'forget' will never work and once you get sorted with medication you will realise that its more likely an imbalance of chemicals in your brain such as serotonin making you have these feelings.

[Retrochic]

Sqad - whose definition is it then? Recommended daily alcohol intake (units) has nothing to do with alcohol dependence, it related to what 'experts' deem is healthy.

[grasscarp]

I am only going by Dr Google, but there is a huge amount of research websites about liver regeneration - says 2,830,000 sites it says at top of screen.
Just one quote on NHS website which is relevant -

Drinking a large amount of alcohol, even for only a few days, can lead to a build-up of fats in the liver. This is called alcoholic fatty liver disease, and it's the first stage of ARLD.(Alcohol related Liver Disease)

Fatty liver disease rarely causes any symptoms but it is an important warning sign that you are drinking at a level harmful to your health.

Fatty liver disease is reversible. If you stop drinking alcohol for two weeks, your liver should return to normal.


I dont think there is any question it is capable of regeneration.

Your liver is the key to good health and does so many things that to give it a rest from alcohol breakdown can do nothing but good.

[Sqad]

Retro

\\\\ Recommended daily alcohol intake (units) has nothing to do with alcohol dependence,\\\

I didn't say it was..........but surely the two cannot be dissociated.

Who's definition of alcoholism you ask.............MINE.....if it coincides with the expert's, then even better ;-)

This is not my field of expertise.

[shoota]

UK - you have two problems to deal with.
If you stop drinking you will have one problem to deal with.
Surely a better state of affairs?

And drink can only lead to more problems, both physical and social.

Stick with the abstinence.