Has The World Gone Compensation Crazy?

[anotheoldgit]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3194836/Parents-sue-hospital-psychological-trauma-failed-abortion-cost-bringing-daughter-14-incredibly-supports-700-000-claim-despite-knowing-never-wanted.html

It states that the girl has come to terms with being a mistake, charming being a product of such devoted parents, who are now suing the hospital that carried out the bodged abortion for £700,000 for the girl's maintenance.

[andy-hughes]

What I find so horrible about this story, is the notion that any parents would let their child know that she was 'unwanted'. It seems to go against any of the basic notions of love and affection that children need and deserve by right.

The parents seem keen to enforce what their perceive as their legal rights to money, but involve their child in the situation by making it abundantly clear to her that she has been, and remains a psychological and financial burden to them.

If any parents waited until they could 'afford' children, a huge number of them - ours included! - would not be here.

I think these parents have and are behaving shamefully by trying to shift their parental responsibilities onto the state, and I hope their case fails, as it deserves to, legally, and certainly morally.

[Zacs-Master]

I'd be interested to know if they're practicing catholic!

[youngmafbog]

AH, I couldn't agree more.

[bednobs]

of course the child support them in what they are trying to do - she will get a holiday/car/whatever out of it won't she! For 700k i would be willing to hear my parents were going tom tell the world they considered me a financial/emotional burden (cause let's face it, thats what children are aren't they?)

[Mamyalynne]

I agree with Bednobs, the daughter is 'in on it' - they've had the conversation.......

'You know we love you very much but this is what we have to say if we want money.'

[andy-hughes]

bednobs - //For 700k i would be willing to hear my parents were going tom tell the world they considered me a financial/emotional burden (cause let's face it, thats what children are aren't they?) //

Depends.

Personally, I have always found, and still find today, that my children are an emotional gift, I would not miss a single minute of the time I have had with them or not spend a single penny of the money I have used to make them as comfortable and secure as I can.

If you feel that children are a 'burden', there is a very simply solution ...

[andy-hughes]

Mamyalynne - //I agree with Bednobs, the daughter is 'in on it' - they've had the conversation.......

'You know we love you very much but this is what we have to say if we want money.' //

Since we look to our parents as role models and supporters, what does that say about this family?

[jno]

shoot them?

[hc4361]

Not the first to claim for this:
http://www.abortionreview.org/index.php/site/article/9/

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2826874/Fury-mothers-thousands-compensation-healthy-babies-tried-aborted.html

[andy-hughes]

jno - perhaps a tad extreme - but I do not think they should be supported in their claim - their attitude to their responsibilities for their child is appalling. Hopefully the law will not support them in this shameful exercise.

[Sqad]

I am slightly confused here....sure if the abortion was not complete i.e it had failed, then there would have been signs of the pregnancy progressing.
In that case they would have returned to the Obstetrician for repeat evacuation of the uterus and if they didn't, then one would presume that they were happy to continue with the pregnancy and hence have no case in Law.

[andy-hughes]

Sqad - if I have read the report correctly, by the time the parents realised that the termination had not been successful, the pregnancy had passed the time when legal termination could have been carried out - so the mother carried her baby to term.

[Sqad]

A-H........you may well be correct, but this was in Italy and i don't know the law for terminating a pregnancy.
Surely there would be a case here of the law allowing termination on the grounds of the rare nature of the situation......a failed medical abortion.

[andy-hughes]

Sqad - the link advises that Italian law prevents a termination after twenty-one weeks.

I would suggest it is possible for the mother to believe the termination had been successful, and that she found out she was still pregnant after the twenty-one week date had passed.

[Sqad]

A-H.....yes......maybe.

[Mamyalynne]

'What does it say of these parents?'

I think they are out of order full stop and bad role models to their daughter.

[andy-hughes]

Sqad - as a character in a film said - 'Never underestimate the power of denial ...'.

[Sqad]

A-H...;-)

I don't know the facts here........but if i were the parents, i would take the view that the medical authorities had "botched" a straightforward surgical procedure that had resulted in "hardship" to the recipient and that i would sue them on the basis of negligence.

That is if we knew the full facts here.

As far as letting the child know that she was unwanted and the damage to her that may have transpired...... I think is emotional thinking which has no scientific basis in the main. One sees a disturbed child, then one looks back at it's life history and it is easy to find some incident to which the blame could be laid.

[Old_Geezer]

I would have thought that one would need to prove insufficient care had been taken. If the hospital did what was considered, all the right things, and it was one of those unfortunate failed cases one gets a small percentage of, then is there a case to answer ?

Perhaps they should sue themselves for having sex and creating the situation.

Anyway it is clear they were wrong, they did have the resources to bring her up after all.

[andy-hughes]

Sqad - //As far as letting the child know that she was unwanted and the damage to her that may have transpired...... I think is emotional thinking which has no scientific basis in the main. One sees a disturbed child, then one looks back at it's life history and it is easy to find some incident to which the blame could be laid. //

I entirely agree that it is 'emotional thinking' - and in this instance, the report advises that the child is well adjusted, and mature beyond her years.

In common with any number of people (myself included!) she has managed to reach maturity with a reasonable grasp of morality and sanity in spite of, rather than because of, her parents, and their attitudes to her.