What Should I Do?

[Justalonelygirl]

So I've met this guy about 2 weeks and a half ago, we are going to be classmates in the fall at university. He is really nice and sweet and we talk all day long, from the time we wake up and till we fall asleep, he really gets me and he said that I'm the first girl with whom he has so much in common, we get along pretty well. He supported me through my problems and I did the same for him and he said that he is starting to fall in love with me and that he can't wait to see me in a month and a half, when we start university. We text, call and videochat and we are talking about anything and I've started to fall in love with him. I've never had this kind of connection with anyone before and even though I haven't met him face to face I feel like he may be the one person I needed in my life for the past years. He said that he really wishes to be together with me and we call each other 'babe' and sometimes act like a couple. But I do have a big problem: the both of us got out of a relationship like one month and a half ago, the difference is that he was with his ex for 10 months and they've got along pretty well, compared to me who I was with my ex for 3 months only and we fought more. He still keeps in touch with his ex daily from what he told me, but my gut feeling is telling me that he is still not over his ex. This thought keeps bugging me daily and I'm feeling really down because I'm really starting to love with him and I want to start a relationship with him in the fall.

[jomifl]

ex =?

[Cloverjo]

Just be friends with him when you start uni, and see what happens.

[DSJ]

Please, if you are going on to university, learn the art of paragraphing your writing.

Good luck.

[Sqad]

You have both got exes and you are both going to Uni.
He will obviously think of his ex as he has you in his arms and kissing you.......but no matter.....he may like you better.
Certainly for a time you will be competing with his ex but that is the way love (lust) whatever works. Technique, luck, experience, physical satisfaction will all play their part in the deciding of an outcome to your relationship.
If you are not a player...you can't be a winner.

[MargoTester]

Sorry to but in. It's good to see you back sqad:-))

[Sqad]

:-) ^^^^^

[naomi24]

Welcome back, sqad. :o)

[Cloverjo]

I was just going to say the same thing. Welcome back, Sqad. (Sorry, justalonelygirl)

[Prudie]

I've emailed you sqad
LOL always wanted to say that
:-)

[Bazile]

Yes, the AA group sessions didn't work for sqad :-)
( answerbank anonymous )

[Old_Geezer]

First thing you should do is write in easily digested paragraphs.

[Mamyalynne]

Two and a half weeks into a friendship with someone you have never met face to face, it seems to me you are pinning too much too soon on this.

Relax and enjoy getting to know him better when you finally meet.

Hi Sqad.

[Old_Geezer]

"So I've met this guy about 2 weeks and a half ago"
"even though I haven't met him face to face"
So either you haven't met him, or you spent each encounter back to back ?

"both of us got out of a relationship like one month and a half ago"
"he was with his ex for 10 months"
Oh next to no time there then.

"I was with my ex for 3 months only"
Hardly a proper relationship then, had a few dates and spend a little time together; didn't have time to get to know them that well.

"He still keeps in touch with his ex"
Well I don't think you have to have to break off a friendship if a closer relationship ends; but at this stage it isn't clear he has truly finished and one should take things slowly for now. Not expect too much.

"So I've met this guy about 2 weeks and a half ago, we are going to be classmates in the fall at university. He is really nice and sweet ..."
I take it that this is an accidental double paste and not a second guy.

As I said above; don't expect to much yet. Take it slowly, there's no rush. One can be friends and see how things go. If you don't start committing prematurely then you will be less hurt if it doesn't go anywhere after all. And if it does go somewhere then all the better.

[Baldric]

Just for info

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Jobs-and-Education/Question1391142.html

[Grandpappy]

All I can say is that if you haven't got your head together for your university studying then your wasting your time on one or the other! Life's a ***!!

[MallyJ]

Frankly ..if you are really going to uni this autumn I would concentrate on what you are paying vast sums of money to do..that is work to get your degree...getting this involved with a chap you have not met but have 'known' for 2 /3 weeks does not bode well for your academic progress. I wonder if this in not related to a series on long involved questions that have been on here of late ... my overall advicee would be to develop some maturity. Good grief..................!

[jomifl]

Try to use the words 'so' and 'like' only where they are necessary. The mental effort required may take your mind off things for which you appear not to be ready....yet.

[Tilly2]

I stopped reading after 'So'.

[jomifl]

:-)

[jomifl]

'so' is such a give away, Thanks Tilly for reminding me.