Are There Certain Cultural Risks Attached To Mixed Relationships?

[anotheoldgit]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4093994/British-mother-26-jailed-Bahrain-strict-Sharia-laws-accused-cheating-husband-beat-tried-leave-country.html

/// He said: 'She has white skin so when I go to grab her by her hand there will be bruises for her. Her skin colour, the bruises appear for her really easily.' ///

[andy-hughes]

Yes - but there are risks involved in any relationship.

I do take your point though - cultural differences can be problematic in situations like this, where a breakdown in the relationship is handled differently by each party depending on cultural attitudes.

The husband's rather pathetic attempts to explain - and no doubt justify - the assault on his wife appear to speak to his attitudes towards women in general - and his wife in particular.

[GenuineclAss]

He's only following what it says in the Koran. To beat your wife and children every day. They're supposed to beat them where it won't show, though.
That's what burka's are for. They can beat them anywhere they like, except the face and nobody knows about it, apart from their doctor, and their husband will be with her when she sees the doctor, to 'explain' where the bruises come from.

[douglas9401]

You can be sure he's good to his old mum though, bless.

[cassa333]

Risks over and above the norm of society you mean?

I think yes. Especially when a woman goes to live in a country that oppresses women as a cultural and religious way of life then she is basicly on a hiding to nothing.

To a lesser degree it will happen in this country as well if a woman marries into an oppressive culture. There is alfter all Sharia law allowed and encouraged in some parts of the U.K. As well. However being in the U.K. It is a bit easier to get out of it than in the originating country as in the article.

[andy-hughes]

No danger of launching straight down the path of cultural stereotyping then?

Thank heavens for that!

[GenuineclAss]

He doesn't need to be good to his mum. Looking after her will be his wife's job. Perhaps she didn't do it to his high standards and that's why she got the bruises.

[douglas9401]

The path of cultural stereotyping? That's quite near the cul-de-sac of denial I think.

[youngmafbog]

There will only be cultural risks when one (or both) of the cultures is extreme as in this case.

There are many case of mixed relationships that have worked well but it needs a lot of give and take something one particular religion seems not to do well at.

[-Talbot-]

Are There Certain Cultural Risks Attached To SOME Mixed Relationships?

[andy-hughes]

YMB - succinctly put, and well argued, I would give you BA this was my thread.

[jourdain2]

Yes. One dear school-friend met a Thai chap at uni. in UK, married him and went to live in Thailand. Went to their wedding and got to know him quite well, I thought he was a nice, caring chap. The 'flat' he took her to was a room in the family compound and she was expected to join the other females in caring for the males and older family. Eventually she insisted on their own place and getting a job - major family upset -no-one would speak to her. She then, sadly, had 2 miscarriages so he started up with a Thai girl and divorced her for not being able to give him children. Not a good time, but she survived, just.

I also know of a lady who married a cultured, wealthy, 'Westernised' man from one of the Gulf states. When they returned from the honeymoon he took her passport and driving-licence from her. Friends have gradually lost touch.