Is Flirting Finished ?

[derekpara]

In the light of recent revelations is flirting finished ?


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[douglas9401]

Buy me a drink and I'll show you.

[davegosling]

In the workplace? Yes, if you're a man and have any sense!

[zebo]

Only involves male to female incidents, female to male seems OK, so at least half of us can flirt away! Just don't play Head, Shoulders, Knees and Toes.

[-Talbot-]

No.
Knowing the difference between flirting and harassment is the key.

[Islay]

BA to Talbot
Totally agree with you Talbot.

[dannyk13]

Depends whether you want to live dangerously or not.

[dannyk13]

Talbot
//Knowing the difference between flirting and harassment is the key//
One girl's flirting is another girl's harassment.

[jim360]

Possibly. But then I was always under the impression that the point of flirting was to get to know someone -- which, presumably, includes getting to know what they like and what they don't.

[sunny-dave]

Also, "context is everything".

What may be acceptable when you are out having fun with a friendly work colleague can look very different when you fall out with him/her a couple of years later and his/her memory gets very selective.

I'm glad I'm retired and that (as yet) no skeletons are rattling in my cupboard ...

[jno]

very broadly speaking, flirting is verbal, and as long as it's not overtly sexual it shouldn't be a problem. But you should be wary of flirting with anyone you don't already know well.

[naomi24]

Talbot, //Knowing the difference between flirting and harassment is the key.//

I’m not so sure that some women recognise that there is a difference. In the current climate, I'd hate to be a man.

[Mamyalynne]

Flirting's good - leching's bad.

Both men and women should know the difference and keep a sense of perspective.

[ummmm]

//I’m not so sure that some women recognise that there is a difference.//

Men either..

[naomi24]

Ummmm, true - but women are the accusers.

[Mamyalynne]

The trouble is in some cases the male and female brain operate on different levels.

I once said to one man in a situation 'Would you like a woman to approach you and do that?'

His reply...

'Phwoarr, not half, bring it on'.

I sighed and moved on.

[aelmpvw]

i'd wait for a lady to flirt with me, then i'd consider i'm on safe ground, mind you i'm still waiting ...

[jno]

... then you're on safe ground already, ael. Enjoy!

[anotheoldgit]

I will have to try and track down the woman who sexually harassed me so that I can ruin her life.

But then as a man I would not do that.

[mccfluff]

flirting isn't finished, knowing how to behave and what is and isn't appropriate seems to be what some men and women need to learn...

[Mamyalynne]

The vast majority of women don't track men down and ruin their lives, they sigh and move on.

There'll always be a small but vociferous number who shout out and that's what grabs the headlines.