//They are not divorced//
They are separated.
//this must be a real slap in the face for her and the children of the marriage.//
They were all aware of the relationship. This statement alone is a example of "digging into their private lives", as I don't think the thoughts of his children have been published.
He gets engaged, and gets butchered by his distractors. If he hadn't have done that and got Carrie knocked up, he'd have still been butchered. He can't really win can he?