We have this topic from time to time on AB and it depends on the definition of the word rape, which is penetrative intercourse against the will of a woman indicated by word or emotional expression.
That is my definition anyway.
That would include the partner using utterances such as being too tired, headache or just not feeling like it.
I would bet, by that definition the vast majority, vast majority of men could be described as rapists.
I would certainly come into that category and have been labelled as such on AB during a previous discussion on this topic.
Women, during my upbringing and teenaged years tended to be respected, on the whole, it being the norm to pick her up from her home and return her in one piece at the end of the evening. She was dressed appropriately, that is her skirt or dress was not barely covering her buttocks and the cleft of her breasts was delicately obscured....delicately.
Mainly, drunken women were the exception to the rule and was looked down upon.
I walked on the outside of the pavement, opened the door to allow her entry, stood up at the table in restaurant when she returned from the "ladies"......that is what was considered respect.
The first time I heard the word rape, was when I was 14 years old and we had to read the Rape of Lucrece by William Shakespeare.
Yes, by todays definition I HAVE raped a woman and ihave also been asked by a girlfriend to rape her after tying her to the bed.
It is not easy to rape a woman, as the strongest muscles in the legs are the Adductor muscles which oppose parting of the thighs.
We live in a different world to which I have difficulty adapting.