So if your mum decided when you were a kid that she hated your dad and refused contact even though you wanted to see him, then she just moved the goal posts, ignored courts telling her to let you see your dad, you would want him to give up, or would you want him to do anything he could to see you, good or bad? You would rather go without seeing him, than him embarrising himself to get the chance to see you. So from my point of view, it is a silly comment. Or just a comment from some female dog who is prob doing the same to her ex husband, are you? Are you the kind of woman who refuses acces to her ex, cus you don't like him?