Ruby, when I said I would ignore maxximus's uninformed comments, I was referring to his supposition that my childhood was spent in church which according to him I hated. Additionally, I really don't need you to tell me what I should or shouldn't say. I said discipline and that's exactly what I meant. You can call it what you like, but whatever, and however many words you choose to use to describe the process of instilling a modicum of social awareness and responsibility for their own behaviour into children, discipline is what it boils down to.
Parenting isn't the easiest thing in the world - I know - I've been there and done it - and as I've already said it's far easier to say 'yes' than 'no'. However, the results of that are destructive, and finding excuses for the outcome of that form of education is no solution to the problem.