Dressing To Please A Man

[Eve]

I read this and thought it would be interesting to get others' opinions on it:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2545081/I-dress-new-man-girlfriends-LIVID.html

The article is about a lady who has had a negative reaction from her female friends because she has started dressing up by wearing skirts, dresses etc... to please her new boyfriend.

I'm interested on who people agree with, her, her friends or have a different view altogether and if it differs between male and female posters.

Over to you :)

[China Doll]

I don't really see the problem with it as long as you're not dressing in stuff you're not comfortable or don't actually like; I tend to be quite smart during the week and more of a jeans person at the weekends, plus I can scrub up ok if I want to. I take pride in what I look like and if man hostage said that something I was wearing didn't look great then I'd listen, he's not being rude, just honest and I'd rather not go out in something I looked rubbish in.

That said, if he suddenly decided I only looked good in excessively short skirts, tight tops and high heeled shoes (highly unlikely) then he'd be told to take a run and jump.

[ummmm]

I don't dress to please him day to day. If we're going out for the evening I'll ask his opinion.

Luckily we've been friends for a long time so he's always been used to seeing me in my lounge clothes, no makeup and my hair tied back.

[rockyracoon]

I've written and deleted about 4 answers to this so I really don't know how I feel about it, as I've been with my OH for 20 odd years I don't really need to dress for him, don't get me wrong when I/we go out I make a huge effort to look nice, but to be honest I think that's more for me. If we were to split up and I met someone new then it's entirely possible that I would dress to impress (within reason and I'd have to like it).

You know what, after reading that back, I don't know if I would. See, I'm very undecided on this matter.

[Sqad]

Quite simple really.......a woman dresses to "please" a man to GET him and then once she has, she then dresses to please herself.

Luckily for the man, there are plenty of women who will dress to please him and ultimately replace HER.

[Prudie]

I believe subconsciously most women dress to please both sexes so I don't really see a problem if this women wants to do it for her current boyfriend. It depends what it is really, in the past I've worn white lace stockings and gone out in just an overcoat to please a man but now I'd tell him to go forth. It needs a balance that doesn't venture into being controlled.

[ummmm]

I let him buy my underwear....he hasn't got trashy tastes though.

[China Doll]

'I believe subconsciously most women dress to please both sexes'

^^^ I'd agree with that Prudie, I think women are way more harsh than men.

[Sqad]

Prudie

\\\I've worn white lace stockings and gone out in just an overcoat to please a man\\

No dress, knickers or bra?

That is a REAL woman.

[rockyracoon]

I wouldn't let him buy any of my clothes, he's useless in that respect and shows no interest in what I wear, except skinny jeans, he doesn't like them, or Converse boots but they're not negotiable. ;)

[Eve]

I am undecided too Rocky. I think Prudie is right about the control aspect. I think if you want to dress up then great but if it becomes something of a control thing then it's getting into dangerous territory.

I'm not saying you're wrong in some cases, but I find that sad Sqad :(

[joeluke]

'No dress, knickers or bra?

That is a REAL woman.'


+1

[berniecuddles]

+2 lol

[joeluke]

Women who don't dress to please their man risk losing him to a woman who does

[ummmm]

Only if they lack a personality!

My partner adores me...regardless of what I'm wearing.

[Eve]

Ok, so I'm interested. Do you men who think a woman should always dress up for her man, do you always dress up for your lady?

[Sqad]

Eve

\\\ Do you men who think a woman should always dress up for her man,\\\

Of course....what an odd question.

\\\\ do you always dress up for your lady?\\\

Too bloody right I do (if she is worth it)

[islasmum]

I dress to please myself, but if we are going anywhere proper I often ask him if he likes me in whatever, or he will say " You look nice in that", but if he says that he doesn't like it I would probably go and change. It works both ways though - I'll have a say in what he is wearing too, as I often wonder if he is slightly colour blind regarding some shirts that he has bought himself. No way would I let any man buy my underwear though!

[Prudie]

JL that's rubbish, beautiful women with great personalities get left for other women all the time, You can't categorise what men find attractive.

[woofgang]

I am not actually sure that it is anybody's business outside of the relationship.

[boxtops]

I'm from the china and ummm school - I dress in what I like to wear - if likes it, that's a bonus. When I met OH, I wouldn't have dreamed to dress differently to "catch" him, no matter what sqad thinks. If he didn't like what he saw, he didn't have to stay :-)