What Do You Think

[JinnyJoan]

I am thinking of moving to a place where you pay for living there.  From Covid here - hardly speaks neighbourly and some are moving out - 3 have already done so and another neighbour will be moving out in 2 years time.

I am just wanting to be looked after, ie fed and have a little company.  Don't get me wrong I will be doing my research.  But just your opinion.  Thanks

 

[barry1010]

Sheltered housing, retirement apartment sort of thing?  If you are ready for the change, why not? 

[Redhelen72]

Like a retirement complex?

I think it's good idea, we looked into it for MIL. Do your homework and decide if you want to rent your home out or sell it.

good luck

[brainiac]

Beware maintenance/service charges, which can quickly get out of hand and make life a misery.

[JinnyJoan]

the only thing worries me is do you get on with your neighbour in the complex.  I have a friend who is in one but some of the neighbours cracks her up.  One literally never stops moaning constantly about sickness.  

[andy-hughes]

You only need to interact as much and as often with your neighbours as you are comfortable with.

If you like them, great, spend time with them, if not, then avoid them.

That's the same in any living situation.

[calmck]

Most important is to visit any place you are interested in.

Clarify your needs. Do you want to be fairly independent and cook for yourself, or have them cook and you eat in communal dining room. How much medical/nursing care do you need. Can you take Maxie. Have guests stay over, take your own furniture.

Check the difference between "Sheltered accommodation" and a care home. 
Good luck in your search

[JinnyJoan]

is there anywhere I can go like an office to discuss things with them

[naomi24]

I think living with people and living alone when you're getting on a bit in years are two very different things.  The elderly, in my opinion, need to feel safe and that someone cares.  I know of one place that offers one and two bedroom flats with their own kitchens and bathrooms, all contained within a secure building with community rooms and activities available.  I think there are about twenty flats in all.  The residents there mix with others as much or as little as they want - they can always go home and shut their door - but there's always someone on hand should they need help.   I think it's something well worth considering.

[Redhelen72]

Naomi that's what we looked at for MIL, £850 a month, whee she currently lives so will still be able to see all her friends.

[calmck]

Any place you visit should have an office where you can find out all you need to know. You should also try to speak to those living there already. Noseynose who recently lost his partner is looking to move to sheltered accommodation, his own flat but with assistance. 

[DTCwordfan]

850 a month is cheap and akin to what would pay for a normal 2 bedroom house/flat/cottage down here. My recently late Aunt paid more than three times that on the fringe of the Lake District, albeit a lovely place and set up with a restaurant and care facilities as age advanced. Go one stage further as into dementia care and the costs rocket - my Mater running at £1750 a week at the moment.

[jennyjoan]

Phoned there and that's a no I can't take Maxie

 

[barry1010]

Pet friendly in Belfast 

https://housingcare.org/elderly-uk-pet-friendly-homes/area-2-belfast

[Khandro]

I would like to echo brainiac's advice at 11:19.

Beware of service charges, ground rent & other assorted   extras. Look before you leap.  

[Khandro]

DTC //Go one stage further as into dementia care and the costs rocket - my Mater running at £1750 a week at the moment.//

 

What! that's £91,000 a year! is that correct? 

 

[ladybirder]

That sure is rocketng DT!

[jennyjoan]

Ladybird I think you live on your own. Is it a complex or a house. If it is a complex. Do you like it. 

[andres]

11.57--DT  £850 is very expensive in our area.Don't dementia sufferers get assistance with their fees?

[Maydup]

How does a regular person possibly afford this?

Beware too that if the accommodation is purchased (as opposed to rented) the service and support charges continue after your death until your family have managed to sell the property.

For some this has been quite a burden.

 

 

[ladybirder]

JJ I live in my own ground floor flat with its own garden and my little dog Jay.

This year I will be 86 years old.  Several of my neighbours look out for me as I have for them over the years.  I have no plans at present to move from here.  Hope I don't have to but I am thinking of hiring a washer upperer for a half hour a day;-)  I already have a cleaner who comes 1.5 hours a fortnight.  I want her to come once a week but she won't as she's too busy and she says I don't need it anyway!!

I hope you find somewhere you and Maxie will be happy together.  xx