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Drinking/alcoholism
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Alcoholics drink generally by themselves,everyday,often from very early in the day. One of my mates is like that, drinking everyday by himself during the day because he works nights during the week. He got sacked from his last job for taking advantage of flexi time to go to the pub every lunch hour for 2 hours, drinking as much as 8 double whyskies during that time. We told him to make drinking JUST a social thing, Friday, Saturday & Sunday night. (He still takes no notice).
You should start a policy of not drinking during the week and take it from there.
I myself have tried to stay in on Friday nights, prefering Saturday nights and Sunday afternoons.
There is hardly a Saturday night goes by when Im not "away with the mixer", often not remebering exactly what I got up to. Often getting strange birds ringing me up a couple of days later, whom I do not remember meeting let alone getting off with. As long as its JUST one night a week as a norm that Im in that state, then thats not too much of a problem.
If you are getting in that state a lot, then it may be a problem.
I think it's really important to completely change your routine.
On the nights you don't want to drink, plan something to do, and make sure you eat, (It inhibits the I wanna drink feelin).
It's hard to do if you spend every night with someone who doesn't see it as a problem, in my office (culture) it is a big problem, and an easy routine to fall into. I have seen alot of relationship failures and work issues due to it, but at least you have realised!!
It is hard, anybody tells you otherwise is lying, Anyway, Good luck and keep busy!!
Obviously you are aware that this is a problem, dancealot13 and that's a big step towards doing something about it.
On one of your normal nights out, why not go out with your friends to the places you would go, but drink soft drinks all night. Then look at the behaviour of the girls around you, and tell yourself "That's me, except not tonight, and not any more."
There's nothing like seeing drunken behaviour from a sober viewpoint to make you reailse that most people are either just foolish and faintly uncomfortable to be around, right up to incapable, ill, ugly, and violent. Then say to yourself, "Hopefully I am just the first, but I'm on my way to being the rest, and it's time to stop. Now."
Good luck.
To everyone that responded- Thank you.
Tonight I am going out because a friend of mine is here from out of state. I know everyone is going to drinking, but Im NOT. So I'll see what it's like for the first time to be around drunk people. Andy_Huges: And you're right, Im sure it will give me a good picture of what I look like when I drink too much, and It probably wont be pretty either. Have a great weekend everyone.
Cheers xxx
dancealot-
It will probably be grim going out and not drinking. Can you compromise? Try alternating your drinks with a soft drink- orange juice or fizzy water. This will slow your drinking down. And the moment you feel yourself getting drunk, STOP. And when you feel "normal" again, go back to your drink. There is nothing wrong with having a couple of drinks with your friends! Being compulsive means you drink NOTHING, or everything. Avoid compulsive behaviour- no extremes! Just drink a bit, and be aware of how you are feeling.