Real Men-------Real Women

[Lonnie]

Here Goes, I'm not trying to start a sex war, but what, in your opinion, constitutes the make up of a Real Man or Real Woman, more mentally than physically, although you can throw both into the pot if you wish.

[devilwoman]

a real man is a man who can cry cos the notion that men dont cry is rubbish.
a real man is'nt afraid of changing dirty nappies
a real man shows his feelings and love towards his wife/girlfriend
a real man loves his mum

[rugeleyboy]

i am a real man because

1. i cried when my kids where born
2. i love my family very dearly and they come first no matter what
3. i do the washing up because its everybodys job.
4. i put up with no cr*p from anyone.

but the down side is, i do not love my mom!

my wife is a real woman because

1. our kids are her life
2. she keeps me straight and my feet on the ground
3. she is not afraid to show her feelings
4. she is everything i ever need

[fee-is-me]

Real man - dominant without being a bully.

Real woman - submissive without being a doormat.

(But that's PURELY the way i like my men and how i like to be... i wouldn't argue with anyone else's p.o.v as it's SOOOOOOOO subjective... and thank goodness we are all different... makes for a far more interesting world!)

What about you, Lonnie...?

[whiffey]

Well Cat Deeley obviously, much much more than just a bimbo, should really be hosting Ready Steady Cook.

As for a Real Man, Terry Wogan, the man who caused my downfall.

[unruliejulie]

i agree exactly with devilwoman as to what makes a "real" man.

[Scarlett]

A real man- ie, someone who is man enough (but not too much!) for me would be someone who is:

Sensitive but also masculine- not a wimp
Someone who is grown up- doesn't need to be mothered
Someone who can cook and do household things without making a big deal about it....
.. but who also can do repairs and sexy building things!

[raysparx]

Hi Lonnie,

I don't know if I am a real man or not, I cry sometimes, I get emotional when my lads tell me they love me, i used to kiss my grandad goodnight, I don't allways admit to being wrong, I loved taking my sons out when they were little, I can be awkward, I swear, I tell my kids I love them, I tell my sister I love her, god I realy don't know !!!

A real Woman Lonnie I married one

[dot.hawkes]

a real man listens to what u tell him and then makes an ill informed decision.

A real woman listens to what a man says and then makes him believe she has done exactly what he told her to do.

[The Sherman]

let me get this straight to be a real man i have to love my mum, now it just so happens i do love her, but if she was a huge big paedophile and i didnt love her that would make me not real?? where do you people come up with this crap? just because a man doesnt love his mum doesnt make him any less of a man

[unruliejulie]

ah ray, i wish you'd married me instead of Mrs Sparx!!!!!!!!!!!

[devilwoman]

hi the sherman, glad your mums not a P and i'm glad you love her, what i meant was a a real man to admit that he loves his mum no matter whoever is listening, sometimes you hear a bloke on the phone to his mum saying yeh you too or ditto or whatever word he wants to use, for crying out loud whats wrong with; i love you mum?

[The Sherman]

oh haha if thats all it takes them yeah im a real man haha

[unruliejulie]

My husband never ends a phonecall without telliig his mum (or Dad) that he loves her and i think its lovely. I lost my Dad when i was 17 so i think that is very important and as devilwoman says, be man enough to day it and not give a toss who hears!!!!!!

[unruliejulie]

she never said thats all, it was on a list if you looked at the answers properly!!!!

[raysparx]

Hi julie, you are the perfect woman and if there wasn't a mr julie and a mrs sparx , well ,who can say,only trouble is my age compared to yours, but you sound to be a very happy and content julie to me,so I won't rock the boat, Take care dear julie, Ray xx

[robbo82]

I cried when England lost today, does that make me a real man?

[Lonnie]

Fantastic answers, thanks very much, I came up with this, after constantly reading the various posts, and wondering what you all like in your partners, or if your single, what you would like.
Now i'll put my twopennywoth in, but before I start, my father was very Victorian in his outlook, and i've inherited some of his traits, so bear that in mind as you read this, but I do accept the age we live in, even though I don't agree with a lot of the 'freedoms' that go with it..
1, I like a woman, who is content to be a housewife/homemaker, while the man is the breadwinner.
2. I like a woman who is soft on the outside, but can be solid steel when she needs to be.
3. I think, in the natural way of things, I like a woman who is a good mother.
4. I like a woman who is what I call feminine.

Having said that, when we start out as adults, I doubt there's any of us actually know what we want, or who we'll end up with, so when you get people like rugleyboy, or Ray, that have made successes of their marriages, as I believe I have, 27 years, so something must be right, then thats terrific.

As for a real man, all I can say is, I believe its ok to cry, but in private, possibly with family, but not in public,
I also believe that the man must be the strong one in a relationship, although, after years of experience, I know that even though a man is physically generally stronger than a woman, she is the one that is mostly mentally stronger,
So its a question that really means different things to different people, as the various answers have proven.
Thanks again for taking the time to reply.
Lon.

[Lonnie]

Ray,
Thanks very much much for the last on your other post, its much appreciated, one day i'll post a picture of her so you can see how lovable she is.
Love to you and you family.
Lonnie.

[tatie]

A man is strong physically, and mentally, he's prepared to go to war if called upon. Works hard earns well. Does mannish jobs such as gardening household repairs etc
A woman is femenine not showing to man her strongest physical side. but menatally strong, does womanly chores such as cooking household cleaning etc. Naturally this can only apply if both sexes are physically and mentally fit.