Don't want to know sex of baby.....Were in the minority!!!!

[suzanneb]

I'm 32 weeks pregnant with our first baby. We have both chosen not to find out the sex of our baby and so we have a suprise at the birth, but it seems were in the minority, most pregnant women I have met know the sex and are also telling all what their son/daughter is to be called. I was asked the other day and when i said 'were having a suprise' the lady said 'oh you cant possibly get organised before birth with not knowing the sex' so I set my argument that we are organised, and people use this as an excuse to find out, Am I in the minority????

[redcrx]

I found that it was about half and half amongst the women on my pregnancy board.
I didnt want to know. My personal opinion was that if i knew what sex the baby was i would plan what it would look like, personality and basically map out an ideal life for it before the birth. I then had an awful thought that should anything happen to the baby prior to or during the birth it would make it even more unbearable had i had this vision in my head of what baby would be like.
I asked that when baby was born that my partner and i found out what sex our baby was. We were so overjoyed that i had given birth to a lovely child that we had to be reminded by the midwife to look. We had a gorgeous little boy and that moment will always be such a special one when both my boyfriend and i met our son.

[OBonio]

No, you're not in the minority. We didn't find out the sex of our little Princess until she was born. I was tempted to ask at the 20 week scan, but Mrs OBonio kept me on track for 'the great surprise'. We too didn't find out straight away. We just stared at her, agog at how we could produce something so perfect. The mid-wife then advised of the sex after 5 minutes.

We decorated the nursery yellow and bought very neutral colour clothes for when she was born. They only last a few weeks before you need to buy new one's anyway so you can buy blue/pink/whatever then.

[redcrx]

as OBonio says you can paint nursery neutral colours and buy specific pink / blue clothes once baby is born. The first few weeks they wear a lot of babygros anyway and whites best.
People will buy all the pink / blue stuff they can once they baby arrives too.
Enjoy your surprise, there really is nothing like it.

[boobesque]

i found out with my son and found out with this one as well (32 weeks as well!) I didnt do it for organisation i just wanted to know, i always said i would find out and i did, its personal choice and here you wouldnt be in a minority as only around half of the people in my area (based on hospital survey) find out the sex.
With my first child i didnt find out and i was more organised than i was when i had my son. Due to my history i have been very organised with this one though.
As i said its down to choice and i dont see why people cant be honest and say they wanted to know out of curiosity, rather than make an excuse! lol

[zipadeedodah]

I really don't think there's any need at all to find out in order to be organised before the birth - as has been mentioned, it's possible to get everything ready in neutral colours for whatever sex it is. Personally, I'd really want to know before I gave birth, just out of interest.

[4getmenot]

I wouldnt want to know. Its like opening a xmas present early then being all disapointed on xmas that theres nothing to unwrap. I think if parents really want to know then they should tell others and keep it a suprise for them. Otherwise on the day what have you really got to tell them, the weight thats it.

[Lore]

Hiya, I'm 27 weeks and didn't find out either.
It's just personal preference, I think I'm pretty much organised in terms of everything we'll need and I intend to buy a few colours - be it blue or pink when the baby arrives.

[boobesque]

ah, we tried that 4getmenot, but everyone wanted to know and knew i was finding out, i dont think it takes anything away from the experience, i adored my son from the moment i was pregnant regardless of his gender, and i already adore my daughter who is cooking away still!

[suzanneb]

thanks for your replies!!!! We cant wait to meet our son/daughter. Good luck to anyone thats pregnant !! xx

[Pippa68]

I knew what gender I was having in 3 out of my 4 pregnancies ~ and I was still surprised to see what they were..:o)

[electricblue]

I declined to know the sex of any of mine,if i had to go through labour,then i wanted a nice surprise at the end of it.
For me,not knowing if it was boy or girl,made the thought of labour something that i could do knowing that at the end a big surprise was waiting,that was my choice!Personal choices really!

[~posy~]

i didn't want to know on either of mine. when i was pregnant with my daughter i was asked did i want to know and i said no, it was nice not knowing and waiting to find out at the end of it all. when i went for a scan with my son, he was laid on his side with his legs wide open so whether i wanted to know or not it was obvious as to what he was!! lol!! but i found it really nice knowing it was a he in the end and my husband was pleased because he wanted to find out anyway!! if i have another one i'm not sure if i would want to know, i was equally excited with both of mine knowing and not knowing the sex.

[FUZZYBEE]

I did not find out the sex with both my babies and I was in fact totally organised because I just bought lots of stuff in white which in actual fact was easy when it came to washing the clothes i didn't have to spend ages sorting piles out. Good luck to anyone that does want to find out but I just feel so many things in this life are certain and babies are a wonderful surprise anyway. Afterall you can't push them back up. Having said all that I have two girls and we have talked about having another and I think this time I would like to find out just because my husband would need preparation if it was another girl as he would now like a boy to balance out the hormones that are going to be raging in our house in 10 years time !! good luck to you all x

[mycats]

I told everyone I was having a boy even before the hospital told me, I just knew he was a boy, I dont know how. If I ever got pregnant again though I wouldnt ask. My sister had her first baby a few months ago and it was very exciting waiting till he was born to find out if it was gonna be a girl or a boy.

[888sally888]

I think you are absolutely right - I didnt want to know either times - it was such fun not knowing. It kept me going really!!

I didnt discuss names either because I didnt want to be influenced. Jess was going to be Tom and Katherine was going to be Robert!! Was convinced both were boys!!

But not to worry have just got 2 step sons so a happy ending.

Stick to your guns and good luck in 8 weeks x

[luckyeight]

Two couples I know have just had babies and they all elected to keep the sex of the baby a surprise until the birth. They both felt it didn't matter and that they wanted the good, old fashioned surprise of 'It's a girl!' or 'It's a boy!'
I have to say that I can't bear this weird obsession with pink or blue for girls/boys. I think it starts to opress children before they're even conscious of gender differences. I mean, do ppl really want to know what sex their child is just so they can paint the nursery the prescribed colour? Sad.
congrats by the way suzanne, hope all goes well :)