Stop falling in love

[skibenji]

I am currently a student(17) studying in Germany and come from the USA. I have been here 6 weeks and am falling in love with another guy. Obviously I am gay. I know that I have to return to the USA at the end of the year, so I cant have any emotional attachments. I just want to be his friend. I dont want to feel like I love him anymore. How do I make it stop? I am not asking how to stop being gay, I am asking how to stop falling in love.

[tracymort]

ooh i doubt you'll get an answer for that one i'm afraid!

[Hgrove]

The only way to stop yourself falling in love with someone is to stop seeing them completely so you nip it in the bud. But to continue seeing him and become his friend and stop yourself falling in love - I really don't see how!

[GL7 XXX]

I wish I knew the answer to that one too, it would make my life simpler at the moment!

[Hippy]

Even not seeing them doesn't work, you just get daydreamy and gooey thinking about him. Loads of things, a town, a perfume, a song, a fleck of wool the glimpse of a red car; some little thing will remind you of him, and off you go.

Best thing is to give in and have a whirlwind. You and him against the world. Do things together, laugh, dance, enter combined experiences about which you can later reminisce. Enjoy love as a positive, uplifting, and rewarding experience.

You both know that you will return to America after Xmas, and that will be hard, but you will return wiser and more complete than if you deny yourself one of life's most glorious experiences and allow unrequited love gnaw you hollow.

Believe me, I've been there. A cute quotation serves here, "Love is nought but Grief wearing its Sunday clothes".

[bernardo]

Oh dear! There's nothing you can do to stop it happening, but (as Hgrove said) the best thing to do is stop thinking about him as much as possible, which means not seeing him. It's very awkward and it takes a long time, but it eventually will work.

[Gibbo]

you cannot help who you fall in love with. You cannot stop yourself from falling in love

[sweetheart]

Avoid the person. Take part in other activities to keep your mind of things. If you have a religion, look into it further. It may help to calm you and keep you at peace. If all else fails, you're doomed.