Do you lie to your parents?

[humpy07]

My 30 year old sister tells my mother lies on a daily basis. Not just small white lies, but huge stonking ones. These have ranged from making up a job for 9 months when she moved to London to be with her BF to saying they’ve bought a great big Audi, when actually it’s leased and costing £400 per month. My mother hasn’t found out about the majority of these lies, but I find it so difficult to keep up with what she has and hasn’t told her, especially as a lot of the info appears on FB.
The latest (and most frequent) lie is regarding visiting her in-laws. My sister and her in-laws don’t really get along, and they are absolutely rubbish with her kids, yet whenever my BIL says he wants to visit them, off they go for the weekend, and my mother is told a pack of lies about their plans. My mother knows how much my sister ‘hates’ spending time with them, but my sis always makes up porkies, which inevitably come to light when we see snaps of them all on FB. This causes a lot of upset to my folks.
I’ve dropped her in it a few times, as I cannot keep up with all the lies.
Is this normal behaviour? I’m not always 100% truthful with my mum, but never anything on the scale of my sis. My wife doesn’t understand their relationship, as her and her mum are more like best friends.
Are your kids like this with you, or are you like this with your folks?

[ummmm]

In short, No.

Past the age of 16 I never felt the need to lie to either of my parents. Any porkies I told them before that was generally to do with smoking or what I'd spent my money on.

Your sister sounds unhappy with her life so is using exaggeration to make it look better. The Audi story is not a complete lie....she's just making it sound better to make herself look better.

What was your Mother like to her growing up? Did she criticize her much? Or make her feel inferior..!!


How many other siblings do you have?

[Greedyfly]

Only the odd white lie to my mother - mostly because of my current situation and she worries constantly - its easier to tell her I am ok and leave out the really bad bits.

[4getmenot]

not whoppers no. Some people are like that though, wont be just with your parents her friends probably get all the bull too.

[rowanwitch]

Its not lies with my mother more sins of omission lets just say the less she knows the less grief all round I tell my sister pretty much everything though we meet up every couple of months for a good catch up and email each other all the time

[supersuezy24]

Is she aware that you know her lies are blatant?

[China Doll]

I don't lie to them but I don't feel the need to tell them everything about my life either as they'd worry about things that I don't worry about, e.g. I'm having some physio for a sore leg at the moment, it's no big deal and I'm sure it'll get sorted at some point but it's the sort of thing they'd probably worry about more than me.

If any of my family were telling whoppers to them I wouldn't particularly care unless it directly effected me or adversly effected them and I would also not give a monkeys if I dropped them in it as I wouldn't see it as my responsibility to keep up with their fibs.

Mind you, I'm a rubbish liar and so never lie anyway, I look guilty when I've done nothing wrong let alone if I had!

[jackthehat]

Only white lies............
And that is usually only up to the point where I have got everything sorted out in my own mind in order to tell them the truth (for both my son and my parents).
I try not to exaggerate and certainly don't fabricate.

I also won't 'hold' family secrets........I won't lie for others; I've been down that road and seemed to be the one who got into most trouble !!!

[ummmm]

lol...China. That reminds me when the shop took nearly £400 out of Gingers account by accident. He was questioning it when he got his statement...he was saying to me how the hell could he spend £400 in the corner shop. My automatic reaction was....It wasn't me!!

Jack...I got caught out enough times lying for customers when their GF's phoned the pub. One phoned from the phonebox outside...I did the usual he's not here and then she walked in. Didn't do it again after that....if they didn't come to the phone I was left it on the counter and carried on working.

[Old_Geezer]

Given I'd have to tell my parents lies through the Ouija board; no.

I think some folk just get into the habit of lying while others don't. I too feel guilty even when I'm innocent of anything, so I don't think I tell convincing lies anyway. Besides I disapprove so there needs to be a very good reason for me to even contemplate it.

I just don't believe these newspaper/magazine claims that every tells an average of umpteen lies a day. A year maybe. Either that or there's many out there totally unable to function for keeping the tally up.

[humpy07]

Thanks for your responses. I agree that she tries to make her life sound perfect... she's married to a man that is quite a kn0b, who doesn't do anything with their two little kids, and is terribly rude to my parents.

My Mum is no saint by any means. Up until my daughter was born, my mother could be a complete witch, but since she's had grandkids she's really mellowed.

SS - she knows that I know, but always asks that I keep it between the two of us. I do get really annoyed by having to cover about things, and occasionally let things slip, sometime accidentally, and sometimes on purpose.

I don't understand why she makes up most of these lies, especially like last weekend when she said she was in the park with her friend, but was actually on the beach in Brighton with her in-laws, but then posts all pics online.

I'd be devastated if my relationship with my daughter was like this when she's older!

[joko]

its weird...but now im 38///i say stuff to my mum...because i kind of assume that although i lied when i was younger, that she kind of knew all along really...i think thats in my head though because actually i dont think she did...but i guess i figured youd just have to be daft not to just 'know'

[ummmm]

Sounds like she trying to please and impress your mother. That must also be quite horrible by your sister.

People are strange and react differently even though they have had the same experiences. My sister is a very bitter person and blames other people for not achieving much in her life. Me....I seen everything as a learning curve and got on with things.

I'm happy..
She's not..

Just put up with it I'd say.....don't question her about her porkies and that way you won't slip up.

[lardhelmet]

Used to tell porkies to my mum otherwise I'd never have had a life, been anywhere or done anything if she'd had her way! She was very controlling. That's why I went abroad to work when I was 24 and stayed away for 18 years!

[Rodge2]

I used to commit lies of omission all the time with my mother, as did my sister. It was just much much easier to tell her as little as possible as it gave her less ammunition. It was hard enough keeping up with the stories she invented to tell people about me and what a terrible person I was. Fortunately most people do not appear to have believed her. This has actually taught me something in life - that if someone constantly criticises another person, and the other person behaves completely normally, simply ignores the situation and does not retaliate, most people think badly of the person doing the criticising.