Update on asking out Men!

[girlieflirt]

Hi some of you may remember me talking about someone i liked but didnt have the bottle to ask him out for a drink, well i did it yesterday! Aren't you so proud? Anyway all i emailed was 2Hi how are you? So glad it's the weekend! Would you like to go out for a drink one day next week?" He replied back fairly quickly, "Hi, so glad it's the weekend, i'm quite manic at the moment at work, finishing on average at 8pm and later, so once things ease off i'll let you know, that will be easier...have a good weekend"

Now - is that good? or a complete blow out? he did reply quickly and put a kiss on the end? If he had a girlfriend would he have replied telling me so? x

[*Zeus*]

Glad you had a happy ending

[kate1976]

Sounds promising girlie, just stay cool and casual and maybe drop him a few emails during the week talking about general things, asking if he had a good weekend etc.

It doesn't sound like he has a girlfriend but even if he has, there are plenty of other fish in the sea (so my friends tell me anyway but I think my fishing rod is broken)!!

Good luck with it and hopefully you'll soon be having him buying your drink!!

[girlieflirt]

Thanks! Do you think he could be using that as an excuse, hoping i'll forget about it and he won't mention it again? x

[kate1976]

He could be but I'm sure you'll find out one way or another if you keep emailing him! Just stay casual and don't make a big song and dance about it and if he was making excuses then you'll figure it out!

Good luck with it!

[girlieflirt]

Thanks Kate! I need to chill out, i've done my bit, up to him now. I'm not going to mention it again, up to him...You never know i might meet someone tonight! x

[B00]

Ummm, hate to sound horrible here, but to me it doesn't sound promising.....if he was keen, wouldn't he have said something along the lines of "I'd love to when things calm down........" etc etc etc?

Just my opinion of course, but I'm glad you plucked up the courage to do it.

Good luck!

[girlieflirt]

Umm may be BOO, you could be right...he did reply very quickly and put a kiss on the end though..He knows he has to speak to me on the phone about work etc...Oh well can't do much about it now, i've done it and it's up to him now...Ce la vie mon a mie! x

[angel-cake]

Hi girlie. I'm afraid I have to agree with BOO. I have experienced this a couple of times lately and both times it was actually their way of saying no.

He has not asked you any questions in the email (which have required a reply) and has not been definite at all in when things might "ease off".

He probably doesn't have a girlfriend but if he's not interested then it makes no difference anyway.

I really wouldn't email again unless you want to set yourself up for a fall.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but I've been there and it's not worth your effort.

[angel-cake]

Just seen your original question and looseheads comment saying "the worst he can say is no, most guys do it gently anyway". Which is what I think this guy has done.

[Loosehead]

Well as a bloke I can tell you if It was me and I was interested the last thing I'd do is make some excuse involving work. I'm sorry because in the other thread I did encourge you but It seems to me that if he was interested he would have said something like:

"I'd love to, a bit busy at the mo so If you don't mind it being a bit late in the evening then great, what day do you have in mind?"

I conclude he's either totally un interested or he has the social skills of a doorstop. If it's the latter perhaps all is not lost.

[Loosehead]

Well done for doing the asking though, I can see it took some courage.

Do you live round here? (Bournemouth), You sound like a lovely person, Id take you out!

[peachy3]

hey girlie, 2 be honest if men want you they will come & get ya! if he fin work at 8pm u cud go 4 a drink at 9pm til 10pm wat harm wud that do? guessin he 2 chicken to tell ya straight away he aint interested! dont take my word 4 it tho, ya neva no ur luck in a raffle! make sure u dont come across desperate (not sayin ya r) if u contact him again, wait 4 him if he doesnt mail ya move on girl life is 2 short!

[girlieflirt]

Aah loosehead you sweetie! I live in North London sorry hun! x

[Skipoet]

As a bloke, sounds like he's got somebody else. Sorry. The clue is in 'that will be easier'. in other words, 'I'll contact you when it's safe to do so'. I might be wrong, but sounds like somebody is looking to have their cake and eat it.

Good luck, but be careful!

[Loosehead]

Ok Girlie, well if you're ever down this way......