big time flirt

[emjac]

I am really unsure what to do,I am in the forces, so work with lots of people,however, there is this girl I know ,mel, who is in a relationship with another women who I also know, they have been together for 3 yrs. I have always known that mel is flirt with men (strange i know as she says she is a lesbian) as she has flirted with my bloke on several occasions but her fliting is getting out of hand as i have heard that she has been sending photos and rude txts to this guy, and then when he sends her a rude txt back she has been telling people about it , making out it is all on his part. on a different occassion with another guy she has gropped this guy and then went round telling certain people that he had tried it on with her! this guy does not know she has been saying that though. It is a real tricky situation as I know everyone involed and it makes me so angry as she gets away with leading guys on and then making out they all try it on with her. Her girlfriend has no idea about any of this and thinks that mel is great. I know if I were to say anything I would end up the bad one. But it is so wrong what she is doing and I really feel for her girlfriend. Is there anything anyone can advise me to do

[andy hughes]

My advice is to leave well alone. You will be seen merely as a trouble maker if you try and advise anyone involved of Mel's behaviour. She sounds like an attention seeker, and as such is an insecure individual. If you leave well alone, someone else will eventually start to discuss her activities - in the mean time, avoid getting into situations where you or anyone close to you can be compomised. You are really best keeping away from this woman as much as possible - trouble follows people like this - don't be caught in the fall-out.

[Lindy Loo]

Great answer andy...yes she sounds as if she instigates things then ducks when the flack starts flying, but looks innocent and hurt with the 'I'm the victim here' attitude. It also sounds as if she enjoy's doing it, thinking it fun. Sooner or later she will be found out and you don't want to get caught in the middle.

[OBonio]

It'll all come out in the wash. I'd keep my nose out. She'll get her come uppance.

[emjac]

Thanks for all the answers guys. I will keep out of it. I just hope the saying is true, whats goes around comes around.