ChatterBank1 min ago
forgiven not forgotten
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I've always presumed it's quite literal. You're right in that it means the speaker is bearing a grudge, but I don't think there's anything deeper there. Whatever the person did to upset the speaker was not so drastic that s/he can't be forgiven, but it was severe enough to make the speaker unable to forget the situation.
It always reminds me of the Jews and the Nazis - the Jews say "we will forgive ... but we will never forget."
I don't think it's about bearing a grudge, I think it's more about guarding against the same circumstances happening again - and that applies to either extreme - a Holocaust on one side, a relationship break-up on the other.