While i know i shouldn't - and my parents wouldn't wish it upon me - i tend to get a bout of the old guilt when i haven't visited their grave for a few months. So, not wishing to guilt-trip my 4, i've told them i want cremating and my ashes scattered on Pendle Hill. On the top of the hill, that is :-) My eldest daughter says it's a good job i have lots of grand-kids who can climb the hill to do the actual scattering.
Almost no matter where you are in Burnley, the top of the hill is visible, so all they need do, instead of visiting the cemetery, is to look out of their front doors.