It's a mystery....?

[Smowball]

I can't figure it out. My friend has been thru a bitter separation from his ex many years ago. They have children but only speak regarding them. The ex is a big trouble maker and has caused no end of grief which is why my friend has as little to do with her as possible. Now he has a new job, through an agency,so him, the agency and the job location are all over 400 miles from where his ex lives. Only 4 people were told about the new job - his parents, his new gf , oh and me. Yet who rings the new jobs switchboard asking for him? The ex! short of having had him followed how on earth did she know where he was working?? the parents etc definitely havent told her - they havent seen her in years. Any ideas?(ps. and yes regular maintenance is paid )

[redcrx]

well obviously someone has said something to other friends and its been passed back.

[scotman]

^^^^^^^

If he wanted it kept secret he should not have told anyone.

[emmie]

does he pay child maintenance, or in any way defaulted on payments, perhaps it's the CSA who have tracked him, only a suggestion. Other than that, someone did, as been said, if he didn't want anyone to know, he should have remained schtum

[Smowball]

He didnt want her to know as she has a history of calling his work, although to be honest she hasnt done that for a couple of years now. and none of his friends know where she lives now as she has moved 4 times in the last few years - they live counties apart.

[scotman]

Perhaps someone at his new workplace knows his ex.

[Smowball]

No they dont, like I said they live hundreds of miles apart.

[cazzz1975]

there are a lot of options, intercepted his mobile (by knowing voicemail password), knew someone who worked at the agency, was told by someone other than the 4 people (he may have told a mate because who moves 400 miles away without telling anyone?) he would have to inform people of his impending move.

either way I wouldnt worry about it, just ignore any calls, at 400miles away she is hardly going to be visiting regularly

[Smowball]

I dont think he is worried, just baffled. He hasne even told these 4 people the name of the agency - even I dont know lol

[Jenarry]

with have this problem with my bf's ex partner. she'd been snooping on his ebay account for months or even longer before we realised and by then she had found out my address from a message we'd sent to an ebay seller.she then started writing unwanted letters to me and my partner. and a few months later she started texting me on my mobile and to this day I have no idea how she found out my number! it is worrying and baffling. we also live miles apart which is a godsend otherwise we would have a lot more hassle i'm sure.

[craft1948]

Not mentioned it on FB then.........

[Smowball]

nope not mentioned on FB, we dont even use it.