Im feeling sad and need some help....

[georgie115]

Me and my boyfriend met on the internet over 2 years ago and have been going out for over a year now and lately ive become very upset about the fact we're too young to be together properly as he lives in Birmingham and I live in Somerset. We've seen eachother as often as possible which has been about 1 -2 times a month at a weekend and i've been on two holidays with him and hes stayed at my house twice for a over a week but recently ive been feeling really down because I cant be with him properly until ive finished college (im doing my GCSEs at the moment) and to make matters worse hes going into the RAF next month so we'll see eachother even less for a while and never for more than a couple of days at a time. I really dont know what to do about how im feeling because I cant change anything. We've spoken about it alot and we've realised the most sensible thing to do is to just wait until i've finished being in full time education. I realise this is the only thing possible but its so upsetting to know I am properly in love with him and feel like we're really meant to be and whatever I do I cant be with him properly for years. I feel increasingly more depressed. Especially now as yesterday was the last time i'll see him properly for a while. I'm not quite sure what im asking here. I just have no idea what to do about feeling this way and its quite worrying because before I met him and while we were friends I got extremely depressed and i'm quite worried it'll happen again.

[lizzydrippin]

Hi Georgie, Firstly, Im really sorry that you're feeling so sad without your boyfriend around but for your own happiness you really do have to build a life for yourself that doesnt always depend on another person being with you. I expect your boyfriend will be missing you too and he probably doesnt like the idea either that you won't be seeing an awful lot of eachother for a time. But he has a life that is independent of you and although he misses you he will be getting on with his life and enjoying his new career, meeting new friends etc etc. Thats what you need to do too,enjoy being with your friends or go out and meet new friends. Take up some hobbies, look for new interests to become involved in. It'll make the time go quicker until you see him again and will also give you lots of interesting stuff to talk about when you are together again rather than you being depressed and feeling negative. Being in love is supposed to make you happy. Look forward to seeing him again in the future but meanwhile try harder to enjoy life without him being there. You mustnt let yourself fall back into depression. That will only make you feel much worse and will solve nothing. The time will fly by if you don't sit around just waiting miserably for it to pass.

[redhead23]

georfie i agree witha lot of what lizzy says , you will become depressed if you allow yourself too , yes it will be hard but you have got through this before , im sure if he is worth the wait then u will wait ,
in the meantime , life does not have to stop for u , u can still join clubs go swimming and live life to the full . xx

[georgie115]

thanks xx

[scotchollie]

Hi Georgie - some great advice you got there from two great ABers.

Don't forget - you can log on here anytime and be daft, share fun and put the world to rights. Being on your own, doesn't mean you have to be lonely!

Take care.

The Scotch.

[redhead23]

thank u ollie - now where is my dinner ???xx

[Reverandfunk]

Hope you don't think I'm being an old fuddy bcos I'm not that old, but meeting at 14 is too young. At your stage in life you should be happy, going out with your mates, getting drunk on cider in the park etc etc. You have your whole life to settle down so don't rush into it. I know it will hurt because it's the first time, but you will get over it trust me. There's nothing to stop you still seeing him as u do now but don't mope!!!!

[sophie_1003]

if shes taking her gcses then she must be at least 15 and I would never give the advice of "Oh you're just young etc", me and my boyfriend started dating when I was 15 and I'm now 20 and we're now engaged so young love can amount to a lot! In answer to your problem follow the advice in the other answers and you'll get through things much easier, and if you do find that it's getting hard please talk to your boyfriend about it whenever you can, you and him know your relationship best so can offer each other the best support!

[minibusman]

hi georgie,......
firstly let me say how nice it is to hear a girl of your age being sooooo sensible.
i wish my daughter would concentrate on her gcse above her love life!!
you know you are both doing the right thing in securing a future and i am sure that he is feeling as sad as you are.... am i making you feel better or worse here??
what i am trying to say is that you sound as if you are two like minded individuals....... but as individuals you do need to have some fun time for yourself.....
i hope that you soon feel a bit happier life is too short to focus on just one thing day in and out even if he is your soul mate and the love of your life you need to be happy for YOU!!!..... so chear up NOW!!!..........x

[georgie115]

im over 16.... not 14..

[georgie115]

and hes 17

[Reverandfunk]

Sophie, Hope it works out for you but realistically how many people meet their first love, marry them and stay together for 25 years. Statistically not many.

[georgie115]

great thanks for that one.

[emx384]

Keep yourself busy while he is away. Keep in touch with each other as much as you can and try and keep the correspondance - letters are nicer than msn for this!! Then you can re read the lovely stuff he says when you miss him! Remember - the best thing is, because you are so young as a couple you have sooooo many years ahead of you to enjoy everything together. Good luck hon xx