Am I starting my mid-life crisis?!

[peterbar]

I'm open to suggestions on this! I've just had a really restless weekend, I can't settle on anything and I'm having a long look at myself.
I turn 30 next month(its on my mind!), I've a good job, a nice, newly decorated house, and a long term girlfriend(no marriage yet though!)
So where to start? I'm getting bored of the routine of go-to-work, go-home, go-to-work.. My friends are starting to have kids and become 'grown ups' (!) my girlfriend is getting desperate for one of our own, but I really don't fancy one, or know if I ever will!
My job always promises to be more challenging than it is, when it's busy it's great but when things are quiet I get restless, I get bored if I'm not busy.
I'm getting bored at work, bored of commuting home, bored with my friends(they are great but we've known each other so long that nothing is new now!) and more worryingly, bored of my girlfriend who is trying to pin me down to have a kid and be completely settled.
Out this weekend watching people mow lawns, wash cars and do gardening was making me worse, everything seems dull and domesticated, I long for a bit of drama and fun! What can I do to sort myself out? I've been trying new things, getting excercise(swimming,running,cycling etc) but I'm still full of frustrated energy!
And yes, I'm even at the why-are-we-here,where-are-we-going stage.
Sorry to go on, I'm trying to get this out of my system!

[raysparx1]

Pack it all in and travel, get out there and do what you want to do, mid life crisis, bloody hell I hope not at your age, or i better start planning my funeral, you are young, you don't need to settle for mowing the bloody lawn, it will keep growing anyway, now get off your butt and do something about it, good luck with whatever you do, but do something, it's not a rehearsal, only got one one life, so go on pack it all in, I dare you, no double dare you.

[geordie87]

Hi peterbar,just read your post and it seems to me that you really do need to "FIND YOURSELF" -depending on your financial situation, could you afford to take 1yr out perhaps and rent out your house? Then buy a round the world ticket and take off! try backpacking to make it more of a challenge.Maybe you will end up with a better perspective on where you see yourself in the future.good luck!

[sense4all]

30 is a bit young for a mid life crisis. I can see that things in the neighbourhood appear dull.

PLAN A .
You need a complete change of surroundings perhaps! Are you in a position to take a sabatical ( even two weeks away on your own) and go and travel or do volunteer courses with the less well off somewhere in the world.?

http://www.righttodream.com/home/ see the video and read experiences for ideas.
http://www.gap-year.co.uk/index.asp
http://www.realgap.co.uk/Past-Gap-Year-Experie nces

However the bit that troubles me most in your post ,is that you are not being honest with your girlfriend. Please don't waste her time if you are hanging on incase someone/thing better comes along. That is just wrong!! She obviously wants to build a life with you and it is just bad manners to let her think this is going to be the case!!

PLAN B.
Buy a Porsche !!

[redhead23]

book ur self in to do a scyba dive a bunjee jump , do some voluntary work, there are people who would give their right arm to have what you already have !

join a libary - broaden your mind , we all get fed up with the mundane , book a holiday learn a new language , go to the comedy store , go back to colelge and do a course , there is plenty to do

[raysparx1]

sense and red have made some good points there, you have got to be fair to your girlfriend, and what red says about plenty to do, and to be thankfull for all the things you have got, it's big world out there with lots to do, so do some of it.

[fran2]

A change is as good as a rest peterbar!

[Cockney_si]

Book yourself a vocal coach and do some singing it's good for your soul.

Try taking up a sport like Judo or Karate it shall give you some goals to work towards.