raising boys

[2boys&agirl]

i am a mother of 2 boys and 1 girl my promblem is that my daughter never gives a min of trouble but the boys give me a time................. My ? is how to i talk to my 10 yr boy and tell him some things he might say are inapropiate to say to a 10 year old girl . with saying this my 10 yr old boy (mind you school has been in only for three weeks and has already had 2 notes sent home a paddle with suspension from the bus an asst. principal riding home on the bus with him need i say more............i just cant make him understand any advise please help............

[treborrobert]

well i am a one parent and i can see your problem straight away... your daughter carnt do wrong but your lads bring you problems..... there you just said it !.... they see the sister as a mummys girl and gets all the attantion ... so they play bad boys to get some attantion ...and what age are your boys ?

[2boys&agirl]

that is not at all the situation and my boys are 22 and 10....boys are so much different than boys

[2boys&agirl]

girls

[Louisa 69]

Hi i'm sorry to hear that your having such a hard time.
I know , being a parent myself just how daunting it can sometimes seem.
You say your having trouble with your 22year old also, it could be that your 10year old is looking to him as a role model. I'm not meaning to pry but is there a father or grandfather that could maybe speak to them ?
I would also think about speaking to your health visitor and see what her take on the situation is. Hope this helps

[cambus]

Just explain to your boy, as you have explained to us.
I'm sure he will understand.

[treborrobert]

what do you mean girls are so diffrent than boys ? and one of your lads 22 ? thats not a boy thats a man ? and as for your 10 year old .. well if he is so bad and your girl is so good.. he has no chance has he !... you only have to read what you are puting down in your words ! ... bet you even say to him ..."why carnt you be like your sister ".../ look stop maken out that your boys are so bad sit them down and talk to them tell them your problem with them ! and ask them what there problem is ... boys like to feel grown up and not be treated like kids ..even your 10 year old ...and your 10 year old is under a lot off presure from school 1 he is being targeted and probly bullyed and as for principal being on the bus with him ...OH MY GOD HOW INBARESING IS THAT FOR HIM !...you nead to get it out off him sit him down and have a long chat.. tell him you are there for him NOT the school and anything he tells you is between you and him and you will not act on what he tells you ..if he gets it from the school and then from you who is left for him to turn to ? NOBODY !!!!!!!... so for god sake talk to him..... there is a problem you nead to get it out of him and it will take time.. coz boys seem to let it build up inside...... hope this helps let us know how you go on ok