New man New life

[Jenn_Feyo]

Well, Where do I start. am 20yrs old I got marries when I was 17 and had my baby at that age. I separated from my husband when I was 19. He really hurt me and since then I have been alone taking care of my daughter his never cared for her or worried if she even needed a hug for christmas or her birthdate.

My point, I now have meet a guy whom Ive seen realy cares for me and my daughter which is important. He is 13 years older than I am and I really dont care I care for him.. But Im just scared to fall for him. I know he loves us and I feel something strong and not really sure if its love... What should I do continue and what happens happens???

[jane1098]

take it slow hun because you're still young and have lots of living to do. give yourself plenty of time to get to know him and his ways.
you'll know when the times right. all the worrying goes away.

[Jenn_Feyo]

I do want to take it slow and I believe we are but there is times when I feel lonely and think that maybe we should be together but I am also scared ot do that and for it not to work again....

[4getmenot]

Only you know, I say just go for it

[jane1098]

if you feel lonely its best not to think you should be with him. you need to know if you DO want to be with him and for the right reasons. if he feels the same way what have you got to loose.
we all go through the scared feeling
if it doesn't work and you get heart broken don't worry.
hearts mend. i've had a few heart breaks in my time but when the right man came into my life i knew it was for real.

[Jenn_Feyo]

And thats what am scared of, Thinking his the right guy then for it not to work and for this story to repeat and repeat like my first time. I just sometimes think I ment to be bymyself and it hurts to imagine that.

[Pippa68]

jane speaks sense, as does 4get.

I remember when my first marriage ended. I was 26, so not exactly young...but I was scared stiff of letting anyone get close to me in case I fell head over heels and being dumped again!

After a few months I met the current Mr Pippa. It felt right, and even though I had my kids to think about I figured that nothing ventured was nothing gained. I knew I couldn't spend the rest of my life on my own simply because I was scared of being hurt. Life can suck really badly, but there are some great times ahead.

I also thought about my children. Did I want them growing up thinking that you only have one crack of the whip, and if it fails you are doomed? no I didn't.

I have been with Mr P for 12 years now, and married for almost 3. It's fantastic, and I am sure you will find Mr Right. It might be this one..but you won't know unless you try.

[jane1098]

Jenn, we all have been through the feeling of never finding the right person. give yourself a break. i didn't find mine till i was 27.
do you what to be on your own or do you want to be with this man?
in the mean time take some timeout for yourself. go out with some friends. relax and try not to keep worrying about being on your own.

[Jenn_Feyo]

Well I did go out a while back I would go out every 2 weeks.. And now that I meet him everytime his not around me or texting me or even just calling me I miss him and I want to be him.. Jane your right Its what I want but Im scared of what my parents would think cause his older than me. I am going to give a try...

[jane1098]

you go girl!!!
you're twenty years old and have a life time of making mistakes as well as making the right choices.
don't worry about your parents. explain that you're old enough to make your own decisions and to just be there for you.
make some time for your parents to meet this man. invite them over for a meal etc.
one thing you need to be honest about though is how you feel about this man in your life. make sure your parents understand the way you feel.
really hope it works out for you Jenn
good luck! x