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I like this answer, Tups and I agree with you very much. I loathe Christmas cards that say 'Happy Holidays' and I think they make us look like prats! We should either be proud of our religious festivals, or dump them, but not make watery apologies for them.
We don't spend very much on each other at Christmas, probably most on the grandchildren and even then they don't get dozens of gifts from us. I do, I admit, love to decorate the house, but I use the same decorations year after year and put them away very carefully at the end of the season, and I have never blackmailed my children to spend Christmas with us, because I don't want anyone there who feels they're obliged to be.
Frankly, and this probably sounds hideously trite, my favourite part of Christmas is Church. I love singing carols, I love Midnight Mass and I love the Christmas story. It's got everything, nice music, children and animals!