i'm falling in love with my best friend....help please?

[zoidberg256]

for the record i'm male and in my 20's. me and this girl have been friends for quite a while and i've always loved her, and been there for her. But to be honest now i'm falling in love with her. All her past relationships have been with ******** guys that have screwed her over. she just came out of a bad relationship recently. But she claims that they still love each other. what am i to do? whatever her decision i'll stay by her side. Should i tell her how i feel and see what happends, or should i stay silent and remain so and hope for the best?

[ummmm]

If you tell her you risk ruining your friendship.

[caththecrazy]

Do you have any inclination that she feels the same? If not I'd just continue to be there but stay silent could ruin everything

[zoidberg256]

well we have always been very close. we always snuggle up kiss n cuddle. we almost did get together a while back, but due to other commitments on my behalf we didnt. there is obviously some chemistry between us. there is something between us, but i wouldnt go so far to say she feels as strongly as i do

[caththecrazy]

Have to think about how you will feel if she cools on you and doesn't want to continue the friendship but from what you've said maybe you will get together.

I'd wait as never good on the rebound.

[homedeeth]

sounds like a movie starring gwynth paltrow!

[Postdog]

As someone who has been there, it is very tempting to find something more with a really good friend. We didn't work out as lovers, but our friendship was strong enough to last afterwards.

[johnny7]

Despite whether she feels the same or not, you should tell her how you feel. What good is it keeping it to yourself? What's the worst that could happen? She'll probably won't speak to you for a week or whatever but she won't stop being friends with you. If you let her know, she'll know exactly how you feel, leaving the ball in her court so to speak.

[khoey]

tell her how you feel.you have nothing to loose even if she does`nt feel the same and your friendship is strong enough you can both continue as before.