7 year old tantrums

[angel fish]

Hi could any one help ive a seven year old boy that has really got an attitude problem, i am in a new relationship he loves my boyfriend and tells him he loves him all the time my boyfriend is really good with him, he has a 10 year old son who my son says is like a brother he never had , although they argue like kids do but my son is really aggressive it has got to the stage where i am treading on egg shells when i ask him to do anything he shouts is aggressive and disrespecful and sometimes hits me he is so angry all the time, ive asked him if anything his worrying him he says he would tell me if there was, what can i do ,do you think he has a behavour problem that needs proffessional help or is it a stage? ive tried" time out "etc;any one got simlar problems?

[rebajayne]

Hi Angel
Ive got very similar problems but my son is 5. I have had proffesional help and had him checked out for ADHD. Which they said he hasnt got. He got discharged from the hospital and they said he would be better once he started school. But so far that hasnt happened. He speaks to me horribly and his attitude is bad, and he's only 5.
At the moment im talking to him calmley and trying to tell him what he does is wrong. When he's bad i take a toy off him and he can recieve them back when he's been good. Im sure the age differneces between our children mean that the way you deal with it will be different. Sorry got no more advice apart from that.
If it does continue i would advice you to go to your doctor and say that you want to be referred to a child physocolgist or a child doctor. They are very helpfull.
Hope it all works out for you.

[whyme]

Maybe he feels a little resentful of your new partner and his son, think of it from his point of view - he had you all to himself and now two new people have entered your lives, and he s now got to share you. Also maybe hes a bit worried he may not be the most important person in your life any more. A lot of reassurance and lettin him know he is the no.1 man in your life may be just what he needs to hear at moment. Remember hes just a kid and cant express his feelings the same way an adult would. Hope it all goes well for you all.

[mick1]

this is the age kids start getting aggressive and having tatrums. my advise is to look at his diet. _Is he eating to much junk, sweets, i changed the diet of my kids and the change was unbelieveable. if not take a look at your relationship even though you say he gets on with your boyfriend think back to how you was with your son b4 your boyfriend was there. Did you spend quality 1-1 time with him as he could just be missing that connection now.
Good luck

[angel fish]

thanks to all for the advice i will take it on board

[myselfness]

generally i woudlnt think it was the new relationship...

like mick1 said changing the diet and spending regular quality time can help...

theres also a kind of medicine called EYE-Q which you can get from superdrug which helps

i have a sister aged 8 who struggles with tantrums and a lousy attitude ...but my mam found the 3 strike system works, you ask them once, you tell them.. and then you put them somewhere such as in theyre room... somewhere alone... let them shout and scream (cos they will) and dont let them out until they stop.... but eventually they will calm down....

make them appologise and explain what they did wrong...

eventually if you stcik to it and dont let them out until they appologise then they will get the point that they cant get away with it...

not that im condowning locking them in a room but just picking them up and putting them back in until they calm down...

jsut an idea x